I don't care what happens to my mom or grandmother?

[Anonymous]

Both of their health is declining due to the covid-19 vaccines, and I told them once me and my children and I are gone, we will not attend their funeral services or visit them on their sick bed. They don't care and before anyone says anything, my mother and grandmother both treat me like garbage in front of my children. Next year, I will be relocating out of state going homestead - I have no plans of rekindling with my family or visiting them once we leave.

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They don't understand this please help..

[Curmudgeon]

How far back does this go? To your childhood? Where do you think it started? (I am *not* putting you on the spot at all, mind you, just giving you questions to ask yourself. You may find the answers you find unsatisfactory, but at least you will get some kind of closure).

I am grateful that my parents and I have reached a happy understanding in their final years. I have realized that they really *meant well*, even when they were totally wrong, and they realized that, no, I was not going to be a wild child like my older sisters were. (For starters, I was a *boy* and we boys are different, even when we do go wild it is different, but anyway). And for the record, my sisters patched things up with them too, so all is well that ends well.

But hey, if all else fails, go to the funeral and deliver a scathing "eulogy", like this adult cartoon character did (part 1 of a 12 part YouTube upload):

https://www.youtube.com/embed/TnslTRrzaeQ

[Asker]

No eulogy just completely cut them off - very abusive and toxic... I'm sorry

[Curmudgeon]

Fair enough. I was just hoping you might take inspiration from Bojack Horseman like someone I know did. His father was an abusive alcoholic and completely cut him out of the Will, in spite of Mike's taking care of his abusive dad in his final years. Mike cut loose on him in front of his mourning second trophy wife and got his satisfaction.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

What was the point of the question?

[Asker]

They want me to care and not leave them

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

They want you care but at the same time treat you like a trash. I don't think there is anything to think here.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

How was your childhood like? With them.

[Asker]

Abusive and trash their getting everything back karmafully.. serious health issues now. They're wicked and the most high is dealing with them accordingly...

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Just leave them. Don't care for them.

From my perspective, parenthood is through the behaviour. Any woman can remain pregnant. But that does not make her a true mother. Which she only becomes when she acts like a true parent. Not like some mentally unstable, violent person.

Both your mother and grandmother are not worth the attention they are getting.
I would have left mine if she was like that.

In fact my grandmother is somewhat like that. Making faces like a psycho and all. I nearly left her just like that. But she is also somewhat good. Only a little bit.

But don't let temporary words and emotions fool you. See for what they truly are.

[Asker]

Agreed 💯 I'm done with them as partners they'll never change.. their sick mentally