Why did people stop caring about my moms death?

[Anonymous]

It looked like everyone moved on and act like nothing happened. Here I go still grieving over my mother and it’s been almost two months. I work and go on with my life. I feel like everyone expects me to be okay, be tough and be over it. No! I will never be over the loss of my mom. I do my work and everyone at work doesn’t asked me how I’m holding up anymore. They do ask how I am. When I got back from taking time off, NOBODY said “welcome back”, “my condolences”, no hugs NOTHING. They just ignored me. They looked at me and just kept going. My boss was the only one that said welcome back and gave me work which is fine. My coworkers did not say hi, welcome back and straight up told me they need work done and they have a very busy day. I got criticized for being a “moody bitch” and nobody wants to hear me cry for the rest of the work term.
My family seemed to have move on. My older siblings still grieve but they were blasting music and having fun. When people laugh and have fun, I can’t believe I’m depressed. My older sister told me to grieve privately and work isn’t the place to do it and work needs to be done.

[Paris13]

Maybe Some, Hun, Do Not Have The Heart nor Closeness You Do in Losing a Loved One. I Lost My Mom to Cancer. I Grieved With My Sister Who Understood and It Helped To Talk About Mom and Her Failure To Go To a Cancer Specialist. Also, My Sister Feeling Guilty Over Mom's passing Dealing With The Hospital Deal. It Took Her Two Years To Get Somewhat Over Losing Dad to a Lung Disorder (Cigs Cause). I KNow Fully Well, She may Have Moved On But Never Will Totally--------Move On. You May Not Neither. Hugggggs, Sweetheart, I Feel You. xxoo

[Asker]

Thank you so much.

[Paris13]

Ms. Pink, You are Most Welcome. xxoo

[Paris13]

Shokrun, Ms. Pink. xxoo

[IslaTheWitch]

Work is not really a place to focus on your loss and grief. People there have work to do, you too. It takes you a long time, so I suggest you visit a psychologist and ask for help. Constant grieving is not helping you at all.

[Asker]

What is wrong with you? Are you suggesting that letting out my feelings doesn’t help? I can’t help it! I refuse to sugarcoat my feelings and you saying it doesn’t help is discouraging. Everyone stopped asking how I’m holding up and ignore my crying.

[godfatherfan]

You need to see a therapist. Grieving non stop will not change the situation. You need to start the process of moving on. But everyone Gieves differently and everyone has their own timeline. But it is true, you can't let it impact things like work. You either need to find a way to act a certain way at work, or take time off until you are ready. A therapist can help you move on.

[Asker]

I can’t take anymore time off! I need to keep busy but nobody cares if I cry anymore! I just want my mom back!

[godfatherfan]

It has been 2 months. If you are still crying like that, you need professional help. I don't get why people think it is a bad thing to see a therapist. I have taught my kids from a young age that therapy is a good thing.
You can't use the "I can't afford it" as there are many places that use sliding scales to help with it if your insurance doesn't cover it.
It is normal to grieve. Everyone grieves differently. But if it is affecting things like work, that is not normal and you need someone to help you move on.

[moneymagnet24]

I feel you girl I know the pain of losing mom 😢..
Send you hug i hope you feel better.

[Asker]

Thank you and I’m sorry for you loss.

[moneymagnet24]

It's k girl stay strong your mom seeing you from the stars so keep smiling at least once in a day. ❤️

[Asker]

Yeah everyone is just laughing having a good time and stop asking how I’m holding up and continue to go with themselves

[moneymagnet24]

Be your own light girl ❤️

No one feel the pain of losing mom unless they go through the same situation.

I'm here whenever you need friend to talk. 🙏

[Asker]

Thank you