People who have been in rehab or AA why would you ghost someone while you’re working on yourself?

[Anonymous]

And you like this person but couldn’t hangout with them

[D_Bone_Steak]

Usually, they're a part of the problem. If not, you're there to work on yourself and isn't a good time to try and make things work with people in general.

[Asker]

Have you been in AA? Do they usually need time to come back during the early part of AA

[D_Bone_Steak]

I've been put through the Navy rehabilitation program twice and been to a lot of AA meetings as an Alanon to support my Unkle. I'm going to say it really depends on the people. Usually, if they're doing AA because of a court order they're just biding their time and dealing with it until they don't have jail time riding on them being there for a certain amount of time. See them a few months after and they're all strung out again... that's why I would advise not to get too friendly with the others there. If you're there just to really work on yourself and really soak in other people's stories about how bad things can get, I would highly suggest keeping to yourself outside of the meetings.

I hate to say it but the other people there are most likely whose going to drag you back into certain bad decisions. The company we keep and all that.

[Asker]

He’s not a jail bird and has never done anything bad. His dad found him he’s more of a pass out drunk. And he’s only 25 I personally don’t drink or smoke … he knows I care miss him and I’m a good person. I do text often out of anxiety of losing him but I’m just gonna continue being there for him and give him time

[D_Bone_Steak]

Oh, so you're more like an alanon... the non-user that's there to support someone. I was perceiving it like you were hooked on something too. Yeah, the best you can do is try to support and help out. It's important to understand some people have to sort of isolate themselves to get better... even from people that are just there to help. People like that usually start to open back up once they feel like they have their demons under control.

[Anonymous]

Because they’re trying to prioritize their health, not a relationship. Ghosting isn’t the best way, they could just be upfront but I know some people struggle with that and may feel embarrassed or ashamed as to why they need to cut ties.

[Summeroflove]

Me personally no. I never been to something like this. But people who ghost people are cowards who can’t tell someone directly they lost interest.

[Guy13]

Perhaps, they have determined you to be a negative influence and needed to take you out of the equation to heal

[KathrynTaylor]

Because they’re toxic.