You ever get tired of people asking "were you close" when a loved one dies?

[Anonymous]

So my older cousin died from an aneurysm and crashed her car into a tree. People would ask "were you close?" I'm like not too close but we did see each other often. It just makes me mad like I can't grieve for her because we weren't joined at the hip. I cried, because it hit close to home and I feel bad for her daughter because she doesn't have her dad in her life and she's left with her only daughter and husband. Her mom's still living too so I felt worse for them.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Condoleances for your loss.

I feel the same. When I was at my sister's funeral and even during the wake, I had people asking this question and worse.

The absolute worst were those that wanted the "details" since I was the one that discovered her. I remember thinking "You wanted me to take a picture of what?" she had died the evening prior, of course it wasn't a pretty sight.

[Asker]

I'm sorry for your loss, and yes people can be so insensitive

[Agape93]

Yeap. I'm at the funeral, I'm visibly upset, no shit I was close. I wouldn't be here nor care if I wasn't.

[Guy13]

Yes as that is really not thoughtful. Sometimes, I am sorry is the best answer.