Is it normal for people to stop talking to you after the death of your loved one?

[Anonymous]

When my mom passed, people were so supportive and said just holler if I needed anything and called me, but now it’s been a month and those stopped. My friends stopped reaching out two weekends ago. They gave up after I refused to go to outings. My best friend said, “You never come anymore so what’s the point of inviting you. It’s been more fun without you anyways and we decided to drop you. We can’t have someone that grieves all the time.”
Our moms friends including her best friend stopped reaching out to us and never checked in on us. My job is no different. Only three people send their condolences when my mom died and when I came back, nobody said ‘Welcome back’, shoes condolences, NOTHING! They ignored me and my boss put me to work. I was ignored and nobody asked how I was doing. I’m crushed. My mom (besides my siblings and dad), is the only person that really cares about me and she’s gone. My coworker rolled their eyes whenever they see me.

[Saiesh30]

God!!! That's so terrible. Such unsympathetic people you had in the name of 'friends'.
It feels bad but trust me it just shows who were the real well wishers around you.
That's a bitter truth about today's world actually. People don't care. They really don't. To them it's no grief until it happens with them. And as my personal experience, they don't care even if someone from their close ones passes away. Such is the materialistic world.
It is very disheartening however it's an eye opener for you. Whom to trust and whom not to.
The job however, is a professional place. Don't expect from people there. All of them have their own responsibilities and stuff to worry about so they're gonna be like that only.
A suggestion is to not be like those people when they face some atrocity in their life. Instead be sympathetic towards anyone you find going through tough times. That's how we bring a positive change.
And most importantly my heartfelt condolences to you and your family. May your mother rest in peace. And may you all get the strength to get past these tough times.
This too shall pass. 🕊️

[molonski2]

Yes , its pretty normal , as no one can deal with your loss other than you and everyone reacts differently. You are suffering from clinical depression , and you need to see a good phycologist , enquire at work as to any packages available , death is a very final thing that we all have to deal with..

You need to start thinking of your mothers life as a celebration of life , and you need to start addressing all your own issues , you still have your father and siblings , now you all need to be strong , but its also fine to feel pain.

Life must go on.

[Asker]

So you’re saying that people are going to stop giving me attention? My dad told me eventually people are going to get sick of me being depressed all the time and grieving. If you keep talking about it, everyone will get tired of it and I need to get myself help because everyone has their own issues and they can’t stop their would for my grieve. My older siblings said life must go on and being sad all the time and sulking won’t help and them people will REALLY be tired of being around be and will walk always. My brother said I need to celebrate her life instead of being sad and moody all the time because there will be someone well that will go though it and don’t expect all the attention in you anymore because I always seek attention when someone else goes through crap of a loss.

[molonski2]

Yes.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well to hell with all of them Then, this is called surrounded by flakiness, these people were just fake all along, the truth is they probably never cared, you should let them all go and find better friends that will show real loyalty, til then I'd say enjoy your own company and the company of your family, I'm sure your mother is in good hands now and I doubt as a mother that cares about you, she wouldn't want you surrounding yourself with such company anyways, but one thing for sure is take as long as you need to grieve your loved ones.

[RavVid]

I think your best friend has behaved appallingly. It was rather early in life to lose your mom. Your work could have done a lot better. The eye rolling is way out of order.

I'm waiting for an elderly person's passing at this moment. Not my family member but a person I had regard for. A little respect wouldn't hurt these people. I am pretty shocked by their collective attitude and lack of support for you.

Sympathies.