So my old highschool friend had a falling out back in highschool over a guy. Well she liked him and he didn't like her but liked me. Then I ended up liking him back and now we're engaged after all these years. So she was mad with me about going out with him, I apologized since I didn't mean to hurt her feelings. We made up for a little while but she'd say bad stuff about me, then our other friends wouldn't want to be around me anymore. The slightest things would set her off. I was confused because I thought we moved passed that. So it got worse, she'd compare her looks with mine to boys and ask "who looks better?" Her friends would gang up on me in a group chat and make remarks like "isn't that the girl that stole your crush?" Even though they knew me and one of em threatened to fight me. She then came to my house with her cousin and sister to pick up a game and she was cursing out the car. I just didn't know why, so I just stopped talking to her. So recently after all these years she wanted to reconnect and I was skeptical and had an uncomfortable feeling because she wanted to hang out without talking first. Even my current friend said it sounds like a bad idea. So I declined but feel guilty in a way. We're so different now. I saw she's friends with my fiance's ex and after I declined she posted a pic with her, so the animosity still feels there.
Should I reconnect with my old friend?
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I think the ship has sailed on you being friends, right? So what are we talking about? Why would you want to talk to her?
You could text her? I'll talk to you, but the first thing out of your mouth better be an apology.
If you want friends, come hang out on Discord. If you want to make peace, well you got nothing to apologize for, so that's on her.
Yeah my family made me feel guilty about it and wanted me to except my mom. They were like maybe she changed and she hadn't to me
I don't think you should, she sounds like a bad person. But there is a possibility she's changed after a few years..
Barely, one of her other friends recently sent my fiance a message asking was he single even though he has me on his social media. Even he said that sounded suspicious 😩
then definitely no. do NOT give her a second chance.
Right, my family just made me feel guilty in a way about it.
For sure... reignite it.