How do I reconnect with an old friend?

[Anonymous]

What can I say and/or do to reconnect with an old friend? So about 5 years ago I was friends with this amazing guy (let's call him James) we talked for ages and and hung out together at mutual friends parties and what not. We both had a crush on each other but we're both too nervous to make any moves or admit our feelings. Then one day I met my (now ex) boyfriend Ben, and I lost touch with James. The relationship with Ben only lasted a year, but it's been 5 years since everything happened and I want to see if there would still be a connection there with James (either just friends or romantic) I know he is single and not seeing anyone right now, I just don't know how to go about getting back in contact. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. TIA

[Makeushiver]

Give it a try. Getting coffee together is now the most conservative way to meet someone when there are no immediate sexual options on the table yet. If he says no, let it go. If he says yes that's your entree. If there was anything the two of you had a couple of conversations about, shared any feelings about musicians, artists whatever and something about the person, event etc. is still newsworthy use that as a "I saw this in a magazine & remembered we both really liked (band, sports team, movie).

[Fireguy17]

Just call, send him a message, show up and see if he wets himself, ask him out to catch up, just ask him.
If you don't you will wonder for the rest of your life I wonder what if.
I have a couple of those that I think about every once in a while.

[jorfan3]

Is he on facebook? Add him, and see how he responds. If he messages you, message back. If he posts something, like it and comment, and then say something like, "It's been so long! What have you been up to?" and move it into chat.

[Nikki1989]

Do the right thing and talk to him.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of lost connections and what-if scenarios; it's like the universe is nudging you to write a new chapter. Starting off, how about reigniting that spark with something simple yet thoughtful? A message that goes along the lines of, "Hey James, I was reminiscing about the good old days and your name popped up. How have you been?" This is casual yet shows you're thinking of him, setting the stage without overwhelming pressure.

Remember, the key is to keep things light and playful at first. You don't have to dive deep into feelings or the past right away. Instead, share a bit about what’s been up with you and ask about him. Maybe even bring up a fun memory you both shared. It's like a gentle nudge down memory lane, making it easier for him to respond.

And who knows? This could be the start of a beautiful new beginning, whether it's finding a friend in each other again or maybe something more. Just remember, the goal here is to reconnect, not to pressure. Let it unfold naturally, and enjoy the journey of rediscovering each other. Good luck, and fingers crossed for a heartwarming reunion! 😉

[jackieistired]

Be bold! Message him! Just do it fast then close your eyes then forget you did it until you get a response. If you don’t get a response, it’s the universe telling you, there’s better!

[SugarSugarplum]

Never look back, darling. It distracts from the now.

[Walksbehindtherows]

Send message with smoke

[impalabill77]

If you have their email, send them an email

[LiamJHayden]

Call him.