What are your thoughts with co-sleeping?

[Lucy68]

For those that do not know, co-sleeping is when babies and young children sleep close to one or both parents, as opposed to in a separate room.

Would you be okay with co-sleeping or no? Do you find it safe or dangerous? Are there any benefits to cosleeping or no? If your spouse/partner wanted to co-sleep with the baby/child would you be for it or against it?

When I was a baby my mother did co-sleeping. She would lay me on her chest and according to her and family that was the only way I would go to sleep at night. Personally for me, if I had a baby I would co-sleep during the first few months of their life but probably with their bassinet next to me instead of them in the actual bed. And maybe when they're close to 1 years old I'll probably transition them to their crib at night. Plus it'll make nighttime feedings and changing a little easier.

[Apple1996]

Nah not in the same bed like I let my babies sleep next to me in their pack n play but only till they are done breastfeeding like 1-2 years then I'll move them into their own rooms

[Lucy68]

That's what I'd do. Smart and safe

[Apple1996]

Yeah there was one time when we traveled and the baby ended up sleeping between me and my husband. It was such a nightmare we woke up all night worrying we'd roll on him. Not sure how parents sleep like that at home every night. Would cause so much anxiety and loss of sleep

[Lucy68]

Agree

[Kelly6]

my kid slept with me till he was 6, then moved to other room

[Apple1996]

@Kelly6 in his own bed or did you share a bed?

[Kelly6]

shared a bed

[Jennz6]

Let your child sleep with you after they have a bad dream or they just can’t sleep, then after they fall asleep carry them to their bed.

[Lucy68]

If they're like 5 or 6 years old and they had a bad dream or the lighting/thunder scared them, absolutely. I'll probably rub their back, give them some warm milk, and read them a story until they fell asleep.

[Jennz6]

When I was their age my grandma would give me warm milk

[Lucy68]

My mom gave me warm milk (sometimes soup), and would put in a cartoon VHS and rub my back.

[SnowedIn]

TERRIBLE idea. And I mean no offense to those parent who've done this. It just would not work for me or my wife and, specifically, it sets up dependencies by the child on the parents that is a really bad idea for the time when you actually want them to sleep in their own bed. It also has a spillover effect because it delays the child understanding that the world does not revolve around them and that has a huge impact through infancy, toddlerhood, and beyond. It also warps the child's understanding of the parental relationship. The child literally comes between the parents and they internalize that. Finally, sleep quality for mom, dad, and baby are usually much better.

So, while I respect the idea, I do not think it is a good one. There is nothing unsafe about a child of any age -- even a newborn -- sleeping in their own bassinet/crib/bed. It doesn't harm them, mentally or physically.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Absolutely not. Lol! I agree that there is a period in the early years when they need to be close to mom for her milk and that some times the baby won’t go to bed without snuggling but when the baby is gone then they go back in their bassinet or whatever and they go to sleep separately.

[Anonymous]

I'm OK with it. My child sleeps in my bed still

[gorydetails]

It's ok for a while, but you have to eventually put them in their own room.

[Jamie05rhs]

100% NO! NO, NO, NO!!
Too many babies have died this way!!

[Blackcupcake]

nope I don’t like the idea of it.

[collie22]

I never thought of that co sleeping thing

[melanieeeB]

I don't mind

[CateM]

I could never