Do I lack empathy?

[Random_g]

I'm really good at reading situation and even people when I interact with them directly which lead to knowing where is the problem when something happen or when my friends rant to me about their problem.. But the thing is that I can't react upon this knowledge, and I don't know how to comfort them or say the right words they need to hear...

I first thought maybe I lack emotional intelligence but when I looked the definition I figured that I don't, I can know people's emotion and whither they are happy or sad or upset about certain topic for example.. Even if they were totally strangers, I don't know how but I still can read these things about them and know my lines... but I don't know what to do about it.. I just analyse

Most of the time I feel bad about this especially when I feel like I can't even comfort the closest people to me... That's why I look for the solution.

So do I lack empathy? And how can someone learn these social skills?

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Feel free to judge me , I don't take things personally.. In fact that's one of the reasons that led to my question

[Guy13]

Does watching another suffer, whether human or animal, have an effect?
Do you sometimes laugh when others are sad or crying. Ever told a joke at a funeral etc?

[Random_g]

No.. Out of respect I don't, I know that such actions isn't suitable for such situations.
But now that I think about it, once my friend was hugging me and ranting about something gone wrong and she mispronounced a word and I corrected her... I immediately knew this is not the time but it's like my tongue moved on it's own, so I apologized immediately.. I was so engaged in listening to every word and analysing what she is saying to understand what she is going through, but in the end I could only offer her a set of options on what may be the problem or what may be the other party's thinking based on her words or where the things started to go off so that she may check these options and understand the situation better...

But that's not comforting and I know that, I just don't know what to say to comfort someone..
I would think "should I say it's okay? " then my mind kick in and say "you know it's not okay and here is why... "
So in summary, my reactions sucks.

[Guy13]

Sounds like a hyper analytical mind to me. I scored top one ☝️ % on GRE which is international measurement in Analytical. I get s we hat you are saying and how the mind works.
I am also a little bit of a Feeler and tap into it. Scary thought and comment from a friend and partner, “You're the nice version of AI” .

I get what you mean but I’m emotive too. Cry and laugh appropriately, respond rightly, touched by pain and suffering.

[Random_g]

So is there a solution to be more balanced?

[Guy13]

You would need to sit with a clinical psych or psychiatrist as we are approaching
“Above my pay grade” area.

[Random_g]

That would be "above my pocket money" area 😅
but tnx anyway ^^

[Guy13]

Alright good luck with everything. :-)