My sister betrayed me?

[Anonymous]

So my older sister is protective however she is very hard in her ways and can be stubborn.

Background story: I had an affair with a man from work but he is planning to leave his wife. They share 4 kids.

my sister messages the son saying your father is having an affair and all this other crap. He has mental health isssues.

my sister never told me and is being rude to me.

is my sister in the wrong for doing that?

I know I am for participating in an affair but we decided we’re both going to get married.

[Random_g]

She wants your benefits, you may as well thank her, because these kind of relationships don't work out, you are basically blinded by love or whatever, and having an affair with a married man which means he is no good to begin with.. He wasn't good for the previous one, would he be good to you?

Let's say he is ACTUALLY planning to leave his wife for you and marry you, so you think you won't feel guilty about it at all, or that he will never bring it in an argument in the future and shame you for it? ...

Look you still young (25-30) , as someone your age I advice you to know your value my dear, there are many single men out there, or divorced men even.. Don't say I love him so much, remember how you were in love before and now you are over it, you just need courage... No need for you to be a home wrecker , even if that family was already broken that doesn't mean that they are not sharing ties anymore.. Maybe there's still hope that's why they are still together, maybe the wife is still having hope , put yourself in her shoes, what kind of betrayal would you feel.. And wouldn't you think that maybe, just maybe, even if for just 1% , maybe you added the oil to the fire?

[OlderAndWiser]

1. "I had an affair with a man from work but he is planning to leave his wife." That is what EVERY married guy says when he wants to fuck a woman other than his wife. Are you really that naive?

2. "They share 4 kids." I'm sure the kids are very appreciative for the role you have played in their lives.

3. "my sister messages the son saying your father is having an affair" Yeah, your sister is an idiot.

4. "we decided we’re both going to get married." Great! Now you can be the NEXT woman that he cheats on.

[Guy13]

To me you live in a false positive reality or an idealist world. Someone was going to tell from somewhere and you believe this guy about leaving and remarrying you. I hope it all works out as you hope.

[Asker]

All his sons know…. They haven’t approached him. He is going away with them to tell them everything. I know it looks bad.

However my own sister has messaged one of the sons he’s 20 and I’m super upset with my sister….. what advice do you have for how to deal with my sister…. she’s really hurt me.

[Guy13]

As it relates to your sister, I do not know except to say psychological or psychiatric treatment. Sorry this is happening to you...

[SnoopBean9110]

Yes your sister is wrong. she should have told the spouse of this man instead. And welll… Why would you have an affair in the first place! Don’t even say that he is getting a divorce, it hasn’t happened yet. And watch, those that get a divorce end up doing it again because now they no that they can remove their wife/husband from “marriage”(why in quotations because never was really.) Don’t dive into this “relationship” of yours.

[es20490446e]

I won't be around any of the three of you.

[Iron_Man]

I’m really sorry for hearing all this