Unfortunately people respond to smiling happy people much more that to people with a “flat affect” which basically just means that you are not expressing any emotions. So regardless of how shy you are, (and I HATE to say this) but just try smiling more, at least when you meet someone you like. You don’t have to force it, and you don’t have to smile constantly, just when you meet someone, especially someone you like, just smile. Even if your shyness makes you not want to, if you don’t make a conscious effort to change, well I’m afraid that your shyness may cost you a long and fulfilling relationship. We put it all on guys to make that first move, at least we can try to be polite, if we don’t like the guy, and smile if we do. It’s definitely not fair to expect guys to make the first move, AND read our minds as to whether we like them or not.
Good luck, Laura.
I was shy but never quiet so it wasn't hard to make it known. Find reasons to be around them and find reasons to talk to them. It shouldn't take long for them to catch on. Do the occasional shoulder touch or elbow nudge to
Just break the ice with someone by teasing them and making them laugh , most people assume the worst case scenario in their heads and prejudge someone based off of their face expression or their appearance etc they automatically assume someone is stuck up or they are trash or they assume they think their shit don’t stink , don’t get me wrong those type of people are out there but it’s best just not to assume the worst right from the start , just treat people the way you want to be treated , if they don’t like you , that’s their problem not yours. Not everyone is going to like you so surround yourself with the ones that do
I like the suggestion I read of making eye contact.
Also, smile. You don't have to speak a lot or interact a lot, but if your smile is warm and genuine and your eyes are warm and genuine that will cover most of it.
Also, put extra warmth into your greeting. Not fake, obviously, but, again, genuine.
So, it's not a matter of quantity with people, just the quality of the warmth.
I understand this... my "battery" for interacting runs down pretty quick.
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u it could be as simple... as asking a follow up question or two, and for this, you do not need to keep eye contact much...
for example they say hi to you, or approach with small talk or something, if you try your best to respond and then follow up with a question back at them, they they will realize that you're not being rude, just feel a bit awkward
That's a problem I can very well understand. Keep in mind no one can ever please everyone. Just be yourself: there's nothing to gain by trying to convince people you like them. Just be yourself, and observe people and the situations they're in with a detached open mind.
I'm basically the same. Try talking to people you know a little about and seem interesting, for example if you've overheard them talking to someone else, so you have a place to start a conversation. I find my personality works well with someone that is the opposite of mine that likes to talk so there are rarely any awkward silences.
That's one of the cons of being an introvert. It takes time for them to understand that you're just a bit more timid and reserved than others.
Just say Hi. Find something good about them and praise them. If its an average guy he will remember it to his grave.
Just be yourself, no need to try and be something you are not. Just be the best you that you can be... For what it is worth, I have never gotten that impression of you...
When you meet someone new just give them a true smile and maybe a little wave. They will get the hint that you are shy.
They say the same thing about me, I’m shy too
All you have to do is flash that million dollar smiles
Keep working on this 😊
They're just sensitive that's all.
Girl, you look like you've got leprosy
dw do u
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