What's more fullfilling to you in a friend, sharing hobbies in common or sharing quirky/rare personality traits in common?

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Examples of personality traits include being an introvert, being a slow worker, being autistic, ADHD, having similar childhoods, etc.

JustinTheGreat · Accepted Answer

Definitely similar traits. I’m weird Lmao, I’ve always been weird and quirky. I struggled having friends because of that when I was younger. I’ve always been self conscious about certain quirks that I have. After doing some research I’m suspecting that they’re definitely from having undiagnosed ADHD or I wouldn’t be surprised if I’m on the autism spectrum.

The last couple years I’ve been close friends with a group of people who do the same weird things that I do. It’s so comforting. I feel I can really be myself around them without being judged. We have also talked about how we’ve wondered if it was from some kind of neurodiversity.

For example, I like to make noises lol. I can’t stay quiet. I have to randomly blurt out sound effects or weird phrases. (Which is both a adhd and autism symptom) this group of friends does the same exact thing. So we’ll have moments where we’re all just making noises back and forth to each other lmao. The other day we were meowing at each other for like 5 minutes straight. I can’t share that with anyone else lmaooo

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I picked the common interest option. Sharing common interests or hobbies is really important. I usually point this out with opposite-sex "friendships" because I'll be like no... you are not really "just friends" because girl, you like the attention, and dude, you have a crush and call her boyfriend an asshole that you're obviously jealous of. Not saying that kind of friendship can't happen, I'm just describing what I see 99.99% of the time... and I'm fucking old so you can guess I've seen it a lot.

When it comes to pure platonic relationships like friends... common interests and hobbies bring people of all types together. Far more than to people with the same mental disabilities just getting along because they both can't speak right or something like that.

Anonymous · Answer

I've discovered, the older I become, people will connect with me out of some personal benefit or favor. Either my social status or job title; or whatever - they suddenly want to be my "friend". I used to have many "friends". Yet, as time went on, I found myself consistently used for their personal purpose or benefit. No one person's intentions are truly altruistic.

chronic22 · Answer

I'm not sure what I do know is 2 dudes that hate gays can have fun beating up on gay dudes or talking shit to them but having something in common and not wanting to talk about it because you call yourself a moral human being are too different things to really kick it with someone you gotta drop the morals and have fun nobody likes a oppressor that says hey you shouldn't say this or do that lotta people just don't have things in common the things they do have in common they are just gonna be a bit different about it

Zayed_ · Answer

Plain and simple, how much do they pay you for asking questions everyday? you do know that I know which websites you get these questions from! at least try to hide it

Gibbons44 · Answer

Couldn't tell ya. Been ages since I found a person with either.

There were some guys in Sydney (Australia) I could relate to, but I didn't back then grasp the importance of it and came back to Europe, where for some reason I can't quite relate to people (maybe because they are either homosexual, low IQ, colour blind, black, or much older than me).

Shy_Steve · Answer

Nothing is Fulfilling in a Friendship for me, That's why a want a loving Relationship with a Girl.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Me & my friends all have ADHD or are neurodiverse in some way. But we all tend to find something we like and have in common for interests.

SphynxUK · Answer

I get on better with people that are Autistic or at least ND, so that would be most fulfilling. I like to keep my hobbies for myself.

NathanDavis · Answer

just sharing... whether we have it in common or not, sharing is what makes it best for me

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Sharing similar hobbies and interests is more emotionally fulfilling

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Fortunately, we all mutually share a blend of both.

SunnyRS · Answer

I think sharing similar personality traits is more fulfilling as if we have similar personality traits, we might have similar tastes and we can always share our hobbies as well.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@bethany22 For me, a person who has shared hobbies in common would be more fulfilling in a friend. I chose the second option because I want to bond over shared interest in anime.

OddBeMe · Answer

Good q. Not sure. I selected hobbies. Seems more of a foundation to build a relationship than quirks.

clampfan101 · Answer

Hobbies because we can have fun doing them together.

Jltakk · Answer

Personally if the person isn't autistic or adhd, I will have a slightly difficult time connecting with them.

Jerre · Answer

Sharing similar views and personal opinions

SnowedIn · Answer

Shared interests.

Lliam · Answer

Shared interests.

melanieeeB · Answer

Sharing personal views and similar morals

Debbie14217 · Answer

_rare personalitys

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Hobbies and Interest

Stoner710 · Answer

Hobbies

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t do “friends “

LavLavLuv · Answer

Voted A

Babygirl_S · Answer

I picked A

McKellar · Answer

I think both

Anonymous · Answer

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