Do you and your best friends share a lot in common?

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I think its easy for me to avoid those I once considered BFFs for a good 5-12 years because I realized we never truly had much in common. I’m not even sure how we became friends lmao. Maybe because we lived close to eachother or were outcasts at times. Maybe friends by default due to class or having dated someone in the others family? I don't know.

Marsh— the party girl/school hoe

Kourt— the shorty that got picked on

Law— the hot jock who surprisingly didn't have the typical guys mindset

Aye— the class clown whose mom scolded him in front of everyone daily

Tan— the super religious girl who wore a skirt 24/7 and “shamed” others

Ti— a super tall jock who wanted to become a stripper yet was the same height as the pole

Dez— the class clown who eventually got sent to alternative school

Mandy— the homeless wild child who had abusive racist grandparents

Mari— the “my teen mom is my best friend” cheerleader

Ant— the smooth kid who was a helluva dancer

Zak— the geek who was an amazing rapper, dancer and skater

3— the guy who desperately tried to get girls attention

Co— the guy who was old enought to be in college but was still in HS

Pat— the super tall ladies man with a dark side

And then there was me... the somewhat shy yet talkative kid, teachers pet, popular with the jocks, hated by the girlfriends... innocent until fcking around in public with the verbally abusive cheating boyfriend. I don't know what I had in common with these “friends” aside from a sense of humor 🤣

My “real” friends were in preschool and elementary— Ronnie, Jay, Alex, Rasa, Bo, Ives, Sef, Keith, Meg, Justin, Matt, Shell, Chance, Logan, Katie, Tev, Lexis, Charles, and Amy. I had ballet with the girls, videogame tournaments with the boys, and sports with both. We split due to moves to different cities/schools, with bday parties being our only reunions. But we didn't turn on eachother as easily as those in HS.

WHAT DID YOU HAVE IN COMMON WITH YOURS? IF ANYTHING?

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Sarahr123 · Accepted Answer

Actually I was just talking to my sister about this earlier. I don’t think I have a single friend I share a lot in common with. I am still acquainting with people I was friends with when I started secondary school at age 11 and so we pretty much befriended people because those friends were our only options at the time.

I hve been unable to meet anyone after that because we studied together until we were 21 and then there was COVID soon after we started working. Age 21,22,23 was just lost in the pandemic.

If we speak of today. I turned 25 three weeks ago so the last year was just adjusting back into normal life and being able to go shopping, restaurants, cinemas, parlours and hospitals without restrictions relating to the virus.

I am hoping that the following two and a half decades from this quarter century birthday will be a fresh new start for me. I hope to make new friends with whom my views are aligned. I am also hoping not to waste time in relationships with people with whom my views are not aligned. Most of my friends from school are very regressive. I’ll give an example of what one said recently. She compared women to milk. She said: “when we go to the shop we want to get the fresh milk from the back not the one about to expire from the front” to back up her point that we should hurry up and find a husband. All of them are Muslims and they’re so religious that it can be sickening sometimes.

I just want to try and get away from negativity and distance as many people as possible. I am thinking to delete people’s numbers.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

I have a male best friend and he is completely different to me. The only thing the same is our star sign. Why it works is that we accept we both want a friendship and just try to get on the best we do. We do argue, and get on each other nerves but for the most part we actually care about each other and can have a laugh.

Fabiloso · Accepted Answer

Similar interests and approaches to logic. Kinda find ways to help one another from our differences. But still feels kinda like it hangs by just a few threads. Humor clashes a bit but it works well. I'm usually the only one pulling for better change and I think that's really what pulls the threads. My roommate and I work pretty well together, call eachother out a lot. there was a group of gaming friends I had great times with but I kinda gave up when I couldnt upgrade to the next console and keep up the contact other than passing by in school. They apparently still are all together having a great time playin PC, VR and all that. There is a lot of me that wishes I'd tried keeping in the group and still might try to rejoin. It was just some really great moments from my life, and the only reason I'd have a real care to be gaming anymore.

Life's weird and you really don't know what your missing most of the time. Friends are an interesting concept. Conduits of life in a way or can be. Again I felt more connected with gamers oddly enough. Probably cuz we actually did something, had adventures and cooperated ya know. I've thought of getting a bunch of people, buying land and building a whole like town of sustainableness. Away from the world's BS. Just need the right peeps.

ZXCwWRQWz · Accepted Answer

I kind of navigated the whole high school thing and it seemed to follow me ever since. For example, I was both jock as fastest running back and nerd as honor student. I even hung out with stoners and smoked weed sometimes although I only skipped school one time (and everyone noticed when 4.0 GPA student skipped school and I got this big talk from the principal saying the stoners I hung out with were trouble). And I was a sponsored vert skater and fastest sprinter and long jumper and so forth.

I think I'm a "hobby chameleon". If I meet anyone with a very passionate interest, I tend to absorb it. The main thing I have in common with my friends is that we can talk to each other and get along really well and have fun doing things together. It's not any more complicated than that, and my friends span people from across the world of all sorts of interests and jobs.

AlexEfron · Answer

3? 🤣 At first I thought your friends have very short names Tan, Law, Ant, Aye 🤣 and who the hell names their child Ant? Then I saw 3 🤣 and Co. And then I realised that you have nicknames for your friends 😂😂😂.

I don't have best friends anymore 🥲. The one who was there is no more my best friend. We did have some similarities. We were both loved and looked up to back in college. Both a tech savy. Both are considered tall (according to the standards in my country) - we both have the exact same height. We both share the exact same birthdate. She's a year younger than me. But we're poles apart. Coming from an Army family, she had patriotic and nationalist views. I am the exact opposite. She's into guns and fighting, I'm not. I hate her music tastes. She hates that I love anime. Both of us were popular in college - I was well known among the students (seniors/juniors/classmates) and faculty members (professors/HODs/principal), while she had connections with the alumni and non-teaching staff. She's an extrovert, I'm a social introvert.

Anyways, you should reveal your face sometime 😂 I have never seen you ever share your picture on G@G. Popular among jocks 😂 I'm really curious now.

iron_ninjs · Answer

I honestly don't know what I have in common with my childhood friends, except the love of sports, and movies, but we get along great.
I talk to only a few people from my middle school. I have a lot in common with my highschool friends. Everyone is easygoing, funny, and just like to enjoy life with friends and family.
I have a few friends from college that I have a lot in common with. One of them is like my twin when it comes to the stuff we like, and our thoughts and mindset is the same. His girlfriend jokes that she's his romantic soulmate, and I'm his friendship soulmate.

nolabels · Answer

Childhood, teenaged, and a lot of young adult friends come together because of proximity to each other. As young people grow into who they are as adults, it's only natural for them to go their own ways.

I made a break from my young-aged friends when I was around your age. It was time.

I've reconnected over the years with some of them and discovered great changes for the better in some of them. Others were the same folks. Good people, just not my kind of people.

The friends I have now share common worldly interests, but equally as important are interests of the spirit. We lift each other up. That, among other benefits, is what I think friends are for.

mstbooblover · Answer

Interesting your testimony. During my schooltime I never really understood the kind of relations, passions and actions of most people around me, but concerning your main question, what I know out of experience is that what binds me to good friends is as well having some common interests, as different ones.

Common interests lead to explore together, and the different ones help us learning from each other, which means trying to have an open mind. I'm convinced this is the only real path to true friendship.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I like to keep my friend circle small. I have 4 best friends that I hang out with quite often. We have a lot in common. We like the same music, sports, food and movies. We are all in the construction field but different trades. Our families all get along together.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Mainly a love of life and an acceptance of differences. For example, my best friend is hardcore into Hip Hop. I'm not quite a metal head, but I love rock. She loves Rom-coms. I am more mystery or thoughtful Sci-Fi (like Fringe). All of my friends have varied interests.

SunnyRS · Answer

Never had many friends and a best friend definitely not.
In my childhood I always thought, I should study become something and when I will grow up I will have time to make friends and enjoy life but by the time I became something (or at least got a job) I realized I lost the opportunity to make good friends.
So, now I don't make friends I make playmates, if you know what I mean. 😉😉

ElvenMr · Answer

Sense of humour, some common interests, and mostly the "we get along well" feeling when we are spending time with each other. Even if we don't talk for a while, if one of us messages the other we continue talking like nothing happened, so we are there for each other.

RavVid · Answer

Relatively few people I'd call a friend buy yeah we have a lot in common. It helps we work in the same industry. The guy I would think is my most compatible friend not only have interests in common but develop new interests in common.

justabuddy · Answer

Gary - singly older guy like me. Both of us just trying to live life to it's fullest.

Nathan - likes the outdoors just like me. My rock climbing buddy before he had kiddos.

Kim... ex girlfriend for a short time. We still go kayaking in a big group together once in a blue moon.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Only a little. I think I tend to pick my friends based on their personality. I don't really care what they do for work or what hobbies they're into. As long as they're fun to hang out with and talk to.

MysticDevice · Answer

Most of them yes. We all like the same movies, shows, music, have the same plans to survive the zombie apocalypse.

One of my girl best friends though we're actually pretty different and yet we still mean everything to eachother. Its weird.

coachTanthony · Answer

Over the years we had lots in common and now not so much. Old best friends are now just friends and new best friends have emerged.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Nope. That is why I have been changing my friends through my life. New people just keep coming and going.

ohsheeT · Answer

Always there's always something that pulls you together and when you have a moment like that that you can share it just puts everything in more perspective and there's something that brings you together that you like that you can connect on

I would think for you no matter the guy you go out with you would have a lot in common

cjdiqnrncoqbeofna · Answer

not at all!!! we're so different omg it's crazy how we get along

comekitty · Answer

Yes, I have a lot in common with most of my closer friends. I do have one friend that is opposite of me in most every way - but we're still close and have been for a long time. 🙂

Pink2000 · Answer

I share nothing in common with any of my friends.

kellytheman · Answer

Most of my bros like the same things I like from sports and activities we do. They might like to go drinking or smoke some pot which I don't do but we still all get along. Also some of my girls who friends like the same but not as common as my bros we mostly like to talk about relationships and try to get the opposite gender perspective on certain topics. They do like watch football games and sometimes baseball.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Me and my friends share some things in common (all of us are nerds). Anime, cartoons, and video games for the majority of us. Some of us love books.

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