What is wrong with the people in my family?

[Anonymous]

Not proud to say I am still stuck living with them. I am so sick and tired of living with let’s just say this sibling. He has always been a pest all his life and does irritating things like makes noises every 2 seconds. Thanks to my abusive dad this sibling became immature and similar. Whenever my “mom” is around he starts acting immature and messing with me. In the past he almost caused me a heart attack several times. I’m not sure if he is jealous or sadistic. I just want to be happy and with a lover I don’t want to stay with this person forever miserable. The hygiene is not the greatest. There are so many times where the bathroom smells like McDonald’s French fries and musty sweat. He treats my mom like a princess but craps on me. I don’t know if he resents me because my abusive dad treated me a little bit “better” than him. Then he leaves trash everywhere so it’s like walking through a game of wipeout only with trash. For some reason bad things happen when he is around. I don’t know if secretly he is trying to get me to pass away or off myself. I had many cancers spread through my body and he stresses me out worse than when Jesus carried the cross. There are times he would yell at me. He would try to provoke me to anger and when I lash out he acts like the victim and one time almost kicked me out on the streets. I should of took the chance to live with the other side of my family when I was forced out at the time. My ridiculous “dad” doesn’t care that his son picked up after him but tortures me worse. I couldn’t ask a “pastor” for help because he turned it on me and said it was my fault. I just wish I could be free I feel like rapunzel. Money is the issue. California is h e double hockey stick. Housing is too expensive plus I don’t living out here. That’s another story of its own. My “sibling” would always say things like “give me gum and I will stop torturing you.” Like I thought adults were supposed to be mature. Like what the is going on? With adults

[Anonymous]

I also live in Cali so I get what you mean about the cost of living. It’s going up everywhere though, so we just have to ride the wave. As the other person said, start grinding so you can get a roommate and move out. I know you want to move out of Cali but lining up work in another state is hard. It usually can only happen quicker if your job is remote or they have another location you can be transferred to. So if you don’t have those resources then move somewhere local in the mean time. As for your family, whether you’re blood or not they just aren’t people you are compatible with and that’s normal. Just keep your eyes on the prize, let their drama motivate you to work hard and eventually it will pay off. Hang in there.

[Guy13]

Work two jobs. Save money. Get roommate and move out. Problem solved.