Anyone have any regrets that changed how they currently live their life?

[Keishio]

For me when I was a kid about 6 I had a stray cat that lived around the bushes in my back garden. My parents told me to ignore her so she'd leave but I didn't want her to go. I'd take the ham out of my sandwiches that my mum would make for me at school and leave it in the bushes and it kept her around. I can't remember how long it took, it felt like forever but eventually my parents caved and let me keep her. She was incredibly thankful for a place to live and i felt happy that i didn't have to sneak around to spend time with her anymore. Many years later she got sick, I was about 14, she had to be put down. I went with her and my dad to the vet and when it was time they asked if we wanted to go in and be with her, my dad said no, I hesitated, bottled and said no too. I've never regretted anything so much and even now at 30 I'd give so much to go back and live that moment different. It changed my perspective to the point that since then when something painful in life appears i take the difficult option because if I'd have gone in with my cat and been hurt and upset at least that would heal.

[megabamse]

I had sex drunk with a drunk girl. I was not that drunk, and she did not act that drunk. She wanted to have sex with me i said he'll yeah. She was on top of me and riding me. Later the same night, she "wakes up" from being blackout drunk. I had no idea she was that drunk. But she just remember that something sexual have happened with me. And therefore concluded i have raped her. That scared the shit out of me. And from that day on, i have never ever had sex drunk again.

[Keishio]

Probably an unpopular opinion but a couple of times I've had sex when I was pretty bloody hammered with people I'm sure i found attractive at the time but after sobering up I wished I hadn't touched. I wouldn't call that rape. It'd be different if she was blackout and you carried her off but to me it sounds like she was drunk and feeling risky, sobered up, regretted her decision making and tried to blame you for her own mistake

[megabamse]

I have no doubt me and her could also had sex sober. But the fact that she don't remember it made her belive something else. She might have regretting tje drunk part sure. But still.

[Keishio]

I can imagine it doesn't feel good thinking you could have hurt someone that way

[megabamse]

It was really traumatizing to me. Scary. Eye opening. I would never want to hurt anyone like that. And that she believed i did that just hurts. And i bet she feels something similar, it don't matter if it's true or not, she still feels like it happened in that way. So my tip is to just not have sex drunk unless it a already is a form of sexual relationship with this person from before.

[exitseven]

Don't feel guilty. You there there for that cat when he needed you. He enjoyed many years as your pet.

[Keishio]

It's a weird one, bud. Doesn't seem like a big thing looking at it from an outside perspective but if I do take anything from that situation it's made me pick the right choice from then on