Do you regret the way you lived your life?

[jennifer_bloom]

I think if I had studied harder at 18 and socialized with classmates and boyfriends instead of wasting my time in the Christian fellowship, I could have been working as a psychologist now and married with kids. I think joining the Christian fellowship was one of the biggest mistakes I ever made, found a stalker who harassed me online for 11 years and spread lies about me to everyone in sight, met a guy who broke my heart, had five people spread lies about me for their own reasons and the drama was so bad my dad stopped paying my tuition for 6 years. Than I had to face the embarrassment of being 10 years older than the other students when I graduated.

[normalice]

There are things I might do differently, days I might try to relish a bit more, others I might stay in bed for, but overall no.

And I wouldn't be too worried about the stigma around being older than others in your class. I went back for a PhD at 32 and did my undergrad after the military, at the age of 24. If you're there to learn the only person's judgement who matters is your professor's. There is an "air" among others that they are looking for a relationship and there is some natural draw to breathe that air, but once you realize you aren't a part of that atmosphere it's easy to shut it out and just focus on your studies.

But yeah, religion does have a way of robbing people of their best years. Offering up the energy and optimism of youth to the older generations to use for their own ambitions - it's deeply parasitic, really. Too many of the elders know their religion is untrue. But they also hate the idea of being powerless or, worse, being forced to rely solely on their own physical power. Their faith is a red herring- a ruse to make people believe they would gain nothing by having power, but in fact they would be nothing without that power, and they know it.

[RealMarek]

If I had it to do over again there are some things I would have done differently. I wasted a couple decades with a toxic woman. It does no good to think about this too much. The only way forward is to learn from the past, be in the present, and make the best of things as they are now.

[LazerBean]

No, it couldn't have turned out better. I found my husband IN my Christian fellowship while still getting a degree. I was very efficient with my time.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Could've done better but I have few regrets. I hope the future holds better for you, you deserve being surrounded by good people.

[Freedom007]

I used to have a lot of regrets. But over time, they became less painful. This may not be the answer you want to hear right now. But, eventually you began to accept things the way they are today. And the past doesn’t have as great a hold on you as it used to.
As I said I made some bad decisions in my life which led to regrets. But today, I consider myself lucky. Lucky to have the people in my life I do, and the things I have.
I sincerely I hope this helps you. I know how painful and frustrating regrets can be.

[exitseven]

Not really. I did not have much guidance in my life and lacked role models but i somehow found my path and worked hard and accomplished a lot in my life.

[clampfan101]

Considering the things that got in the way of me getting better that I had absolutely no control over, I think I’ve lived pretty well. I’m lonely, depressed, and haven’t had a job for very long, but it could easily be a ton worse.

[Jennz6]

It’s been hard for me but I’m not complaining

[Zolly99999]

Maybe a few things but over all no.

[Wise4myage]

Not yet, lol.