Someone I used to be very close with said I do nothing but hold grudges?

[Anonymous]

I actually do the very opposite and used to let people do whatever they wanted to as I overly forgave them.

Should inrespond to her manipulation tactic as it's not fair or should I just ignore her?

[Anonymous]

If someone you used to be close with is making untrue statements about you and using manipulation tactics, it can be difficult to know how to respond. However, it's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries and protect your own emotional well-being.

If you feel comfortable doing so, you could try calmly and assertively expressing your perspective to the person. Let them know that you feel hurt and misunderstood by their comment, and that it doesn't accurately reflect your behavior. Try to use "I" statements to avoid sounding accusatory or confrontational.

If you don't feel comfortable confronting the person, or if you have tried to talk to them but they continue to use manipulation tactics, it may be best to disengage and focus on your own well-being. You don't have to engage with someone who is not treating you with respect or honesty.

Ultimately, the decision to respond or ignore the person is up to you, and will depend on your own personal values, boundaries, and relationship with the person.