Was I played by him?

[Anonymous]

I spent 3 months talking to this guy it was nothing sexual we just talked about each other we went on a date he paid for my popcorn held my hand and he asked if I got home okay. A couple weeks ago he started acting a little different. I don’t think he’s fond of my friends but we wanted me to come over and sleepover at his house. I agreed. I met his whole family and they were so nice, we didn’t have sex but we did fondle with each other and after that we cuddled up and watched movies. We started texting after that. He’s always getting high so he texts back late but so do I because I’m always studying. Recently he hasn’t asked me to hang out and he hasn’t been texting me. I can’t help but feel I was played.

[Spongebobssocks]

I'm sorry you are feeling played. Have you texted him? Sometimes guys feel like if the girl doesn't take initiativ then its only one sided. So maybe ask him if he wants to hang out?:)

[Asker]

I always text him to hang out. But every time he wants to hang out. He sneak it in he’s not straight up with it and I’m still waiting for him to ask me out.

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright I see. Why dont you ask him out?

[Asker]

I’m not sure if it’s into me tbh

[Asker]

He’s*

[Spongebobssocks]

I think he is. I think you should try

[Asker]

I wish he would take the initiative and ask me out

[Spongebobssocks]

I understand that. I think all women secretly wish that but sometimes it can be good to do it ourself. Then at least you know you did your part

[Anonymous]

You also do not give importance to him. Keep him in his place. If you value yourself, he will understand your value. Do not run after him. Such frivolous boys should not matter, they are not worthy of importance. Move on. Leave such a person

[Asker]

Thank you

[Ben487]

He didn't get sex from you. All you did was hang out together. If he doesn't want a follow up date its not you getting played that's just how dating works sometimes.

[Asker]

What do you mean?