Was he messing with me?

[Anonymous]

I went out yesterday and this one guy from my school I only saw in hallways was there. He stared at me for bit, but I didn’t think anything of it. Then he tapped me on the shoulder like he wanted to ask me something and when I turned around he was like nothing it doesn’t matter. His friend started joking around saying that he thinks I’m cute and wants to talk to me. He was also very cute so I was interested but I didn’t want to make the first move. He stood next to me and put his hand around my waist but literally that was it. Then someone asked me something so I walked away. Later on he came up to me and just stood there alone, but again he hasn’t done anything. I was a pissed off cuz if he didn’t want to talk to me or dance with me why bother me then. I probably shouldn’t even think about it, because he was probably just a drunk guy. What do y'all think was he nervous or was he just messing with me.

[Summeroflove]

Hard to tell but he probably genuinely likes you…. I would just go talk to him and see where things go. He worked the courage to come talk to you so if he means enough to you I would just talk to him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a pretty weird situation with that dude from your school. It definitely seems like he was trying to get your attention, but then he didn't really follow through, which is kind of messed up.

The hand on the waist move is a pretty bold one, especially if he didn't really say or do anything else. It almost seems like he was trying to make a move, but then got cold feet or something. Dudes can be like that sometimes, especially if they're a little nervous or unsure.

My guess is that he was probably into you and wanted to talk to you, but he was just too shy or awkward to really follow through. The fact that his friend was joking about him liking you makes it seem like he was trying to work up the courage.

But then when it came time to actually engage with you, he just kinda froze up. That's gotta be frustrating, especially since he initiated the contact. If he wasn't interested, he shouldn't have bothered you in the first place.

Personally, I don't think he was just messing with you. It seems more like he was genuinely interested, but his nerves got the better of him. Dudes can be real dumb sometimes when it comes to talking to girls they like.

My advice would be to just let it go for now. If he's interested, hopefully he'll get his act together and actually try to talk to you for real next time. But don't stress about it too much. You deserve someone who's gonna be upfront and make the effort, you know?

Just keep doing your thing, girl. If this dude wants a shot, he'll have to step it up. In the meantime, don't waste your energy on someone who can't even work up the courage to have a real conversation. You got this!

[Anonymous]

If you made the first move there i gaurentee you wouldn't be rejected. Up to you, not a lot of people get a %100 chance to go on a date with someone they think is cute.