How tough is Father's Day for those that don't have a dad in their life for whatever reason? How do you cope?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In some ways, it's easier - my dad was around, but he was MEAN. He died - it's a pretty clean break. We barely spoke toward the end, and that was YEARS that we didn't speak much, which was what he seemed to want.

But, I had a guy who I hung out with a lot - the dad of a good friend - and he mentored a few of us who didn't really have the greatest families. I mentioned in another post that HE was more of a dad than my real father was; I usually think of him if I mention my "dad."

This is the third year without him. I don't know, I suppose I really didn't think about it being Father's Day much. Maybe it's that it's been a few years, or I got busy with things. It's not the first year, or some big anniversary, like a ten year thing, that might feel more monumental than a third year. I suppose I'm getting somewhat used to it.

I just thought, "Man, this is the third year without "L" around - I miss that guy." But, I do that with other days, so it's not that unusual, to think of him, either. My birthday (he passed right around my birthday)... Christmas... HIS birthday (which is still in my calendar). His passing was sadder than my father's in many ways. There was a weird year where everything was locked down, and so we had a year to kind of mourn before his "celebration of life." all of which helped.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

My father died in 2007. We did not have a close relationship because of his deep flaws which hurt others, and especially my mother. Those flaws were obvious to everyone who knew him and, at a very young age, I knew my father did things which were inexcusable. I never hated him but I also never respected him. I don't feel any sadness when I think about him being gone.

smashleyy · Accepted Answer

It usually doesn’t even cross my mind, my dad has always been inconsistent in life (more out than in) so it’s the norm. Found it odd I was even giving him some thought yesterday but I think that was just due to me choosing to go no contact since September for the first time

Howdyhey · Accepted Answer

Just go on with the day and tell other people who are fathers happy fathers day.

nolabels · Answer

My dad passed many years ago when I was a kid.

My grown son, who I've never really connected with, and who recently moved into his own place, just texted me, "Happy Father's Day!"

It was a very welcome gesture to have received from him.

Fireguy17 · Answer

My dad was always in my life, so now I have all of those memories.  I go visit their grave site and thank them, let them know I miss them and love them.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I lost both parents when I was 12, so I am used to it now.

Mynameisbobby · Answer

My dad died when I was 13. I miss him everyday 💔 I loved him so much 😢 My uncle adopted me so he has been my dad but it's not the same.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

My dad passed away when was kid was harder at start than it is now. but there moment wish you have them of course.

Anonymous · Answer

You date a Kardashian? (Obscure Pete Davidson dig)😆😆😆

Alex8736 · Answer

By visiting his gravesite

Agape93 · Answer

I was perfectly fine

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