It is wrong to not cry for a sibing's death?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Today my sister would have had her 28th birthday. We had something of a remembrance because my mother wanted it, but I didn't really want it.

It's not that I don't miss her, but she gave me nothing but grief when I tried to reconcile with her, or lied, or made me false promises. She was no princess, and I find it kind of ridiculous that everyone talks of her as this misunderstood heroine when they shunned her while she was alive.

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Someone felt the need to send me a PM full of insults because of this question.
I've made it clear that I'm not happy about her death, and I do miss her, but at the same time she caused a lot of grief for everyone involved with her.

[AaronKrieger]

No, it seems like you just want to move forward with your life. I'm guessing you feel like it'd be a waste of time feeling negative about it, since that'd interrupt your day normal routine. There's probably more to it, since you said you guys had history with each other, but I'm guessing what I said is apart of it.

We all handle to things differently and there can be a plethora of reasons for it. It's fine to not cry about it, but I would try to think about if there's any emotions you are holding back. I've been there before many times.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I think you are right.

[OlderAndWiser]

The dead are canonized s soon as their bodies are cold. I have a sister who I have excluded from my life because of the way she treats me. When she dies , I doubt that I will mourn!

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Exactly.
I do miss her, but I think you remember what kind of character she was.

[Jamie05rhs]

I think you don't cry because you feel helpless about the situation and you have for quite some time, even while she was alive. So what's the point in crying if nothing can be done about it?
Just because you don't cry it doesn't mean that you are not terribly sad.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Nobody could do anything.
I just knew after she relapsed that it wouldn't end well, and not even a month later I was proven correct.
Both me and her girlfriend tried to get her help and go back to SERT. She just made false promises or flipped us off.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sun_Kim-Ai I understand. 😔💙

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Not wrong, but would be quite weird. Many men reckon that men don’t cry, and, according to Beyoncé, big girls don’t cry.

[Jamie05rhs]

That was actually Fergie. But same idea.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

@Jamie05rhs You may be right. I don’t listen to Beyoncé or Fergie, to be honest, but You-Know-Who had this as her infamous hit.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay

[Agape93]

Nope. If you're not sad, don't cry