Does a toxic mom can possibly turn her children into expressionless beings when they are around her?

[Anonymous]

[Pyrofox]

Yes, and if she is single its like MASSIVE stobe light red flag syndrome. To any guys near her. If the kids don't like their single mom. It becomes "HOW TF" will I like her from a mans perspective.

[Asker]

This is exactly my situation, she wanna remarry but I keep thinking, will her new husband truly love her? I mean she is not all that chocolate and roses in personality but she isn’t ugly

[Pyrofox]

Tell her to fix her relationship with her kids before she tries to date muchless marry. Otherwise her kids are just gonna purposely be her worst nightmare behind her back.

[Anonymous]

Speaking from personal experience, yes. When your emotions aren’t taken seriously and/or pushed to the side, you get good at pretending that everything is fine. Very unhealthy.

[Asker]

She called me weird and freak because I didn’t realize that I am expressionless when I’m around her or responding to something she said/showed me. But when I’m not with her I am very expressive (my friends describes me as a happy, very expressive girl) and these things makes me feel like I’m really a different person at home. The real ME is when I’m out in public with my friends or people that I like.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m so sorry. I’m the same way. She’ll think something’s wrong when there’s nothing wrong. In short, I’ve had a tough relationship with my mom. Lots of nasty things have been said and done by her towards me. As a result, I don’t show my real emotions around her anymore.

[Asker]

Sending hugs for you. This is not easy, this is very painful. I feel like im crazy because im expressionless and because of her treating me like shit all my life i developed BPD