Be honest, would you be friends with an autistic/Asperger’s people? Why or why not?

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

If no, why would you not give us a chance? What is it about us you don’t like or annoying?

Most autistics don’t have a lot of friends or always left out. Not true. I have a lot of friends. My best friends, my two really good friends and my acquaintance from high school. Well I HAD two amazing best friends but they dumped me because of what I did. So did everyone else. Some of my relatives (a couple cousins, one of my uncles, two of my aunts) aren’t really fond of be and find me very annoying, lame, slow and so stupid. My moms side of the family hates me because they blame me for her reason of abandoning my dad and I. My grandparents are the only ones on my moms side that don’t hate me.

[caring__1]

The key challenge with those on the spectrum is their inability to comprehend social skills others find to be necessary. As you say, you've been able to make but not keep friends. Some things you do they find annoying, plus there's the guilt by association stigma, where people are afraid others will judge them as being on the spectrum if they associate with you.

No one's perfect, so don't expect perfection from yourself. The key is to turn each of your experiences into learning experiences. Look at what your objective was, what you chose to do and what the results were. Next time, you can come up with an alternative you think will work better. It's fine to ask others for help, also, if you can't see an alternative.

Many people don't like attention drawn to them, unless they are choosing to be noticed. If you are drawing attention to them, without them wanting it, they may be uncomfortable. I remember going out on a date with a girl, once. When the milk she ordered wasn't delivered fast enough, she yelled out "Are you having trouble milking that cow out back?" That was our first and last date, as I've never been into those who feel entitled to put others down.

I wouldn't have a problem being a friend to someone on the spectrum, but I'd probably stay observant and be cautious. People tend to be more receptive to subtleties, than extremes, and people on the spectrum can come across in extreme ways. Never think you're incapable because you face challenges others don't face. Watch this movie to see how one woman addressed her autism: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1278469/

Best wishes, and happiness always.

[htmndg183]

Yes i would. I don't judge people on these things. If you're nice to me and respect me, i will do the same and thats how friendships are made.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Yeah true. My siblings told me I pushed away my ex best friends and they’re treating me the same way I treated them and they warned me.

[gothbxtch]

of course! i have adhd, and i’m not autistic but i’ve wondered before if i was

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Oh really?

[gothbxtch]

yeah!! and regardless, i wouldn’t not be friends with someone because of anything like that

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I’m autistic, and also wondered whether I’d ADHD!

[gothbxtch]

@HippieVeganJewslim hey same but opposite situations haha

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I’m autistic, so I say yes, and many people with no autism were my friends. It’s hard to find other people on the spectrum. I only know Alex, Ryan, Angel, Kris, and Joey as comrades and am acquainted with Zack and Urvish.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Cool. Yeah it’s hard for me to make friends. Everytime I make friend they ditch me and my family tells my how stubborn I am for not listening.

[Astarlessnightsky]

I would be friends with a slimey blob if we connect and share interests.

[Reem12345reem]

Yeah I would