Should I allow my son father back in his life?

[Britt13ff]

My sons, father has not shown any effort in being a father. He’s never saw my son he take care of his daughter that he has with another lady and he keeps saying that he’ll fix it but my question is, should I allow him to fix it on his time? Because I feel like it’s not fair and I’m teaching him that my son comes second.

[midnightmoon05]

You asked this 2 times…

You have to fix it by doing the best for the kid. Not allowing another man-child to destroy your son or you.
by now you know he is not going to…he can’t handle two women…give it up. Raise him well on your own.
you never mention money for the kid. If you can do without child support…cut him out.
learn the lesson…sounded like he was with another woman at the same time when you got pregnant.
tell your son yiu made a mistake…but you must take responsibility and be the best single mom for the kid.
keep asking him to be involved when he is not interested will destroy your son and you more…the inconsistency of a father is worse then being involve say with a schedule.
my ex boyfriend father was inconsistent.. he grew up messed up and on drugs…he was confused why daddy doesn’t love him on a regular basis and disappeared most of the time.

[Britt13ff]

I know this is my second time asking It’s just I’m confuse I just feel like it’s wrong to take him away from his father even though he’s not in his life now, I just felt like if he wanted to come around and I didn’t allow him then I will be wrong even though I feel like that’s what I should do.

[midnightmoon05]

Be positive and communicate with him.
“That would be so amazing! Let’s set up a plan/schedule to have you two spend time together…how about every Saturday?”
This way you also get a little break from son and hold him accountable l.
They need some responsibilities and keep their words. If he doesn’t.. then you have to be wrong to cut ties for the well being of the kid.

[Anonymous]

No not until he steps up and proves and show he is going to be 100% going to be a constant in his son's life.

[strateguy632]

i think better for child to let his natural father get involved,

[Jmmmfi4]

Do what's best for the child