How to handle controlling parents who won't let you take trips?

[Anonymous]

I am a recent grad, I have money saved up and I'm applying for jobs, and will soon get my own place. I am taking the bus to see them in town. I didn't ask for permission I just told them where I am going and they caused a big scene in the house and threatened to disown me.

Updates

9 mo

To see my college friends out of town.

[provokeesmokee]

Move out asap and go low to no contact.

Your parents are just trying to keep you under their thumb.

You're an adult. You're gonna be making your own money. You have the run of your life.

[Jazzy54]

That’s the price you sometimes pay when you’re an adult. Your parents won’t always agree with your decisions.

[gorydetails]

Are they paying your living expenses? Did they make it a request that you ask permission to go take trips?

[Asker]

No I paid for my own rent my whole life. I’m staying with them temporarily while I look for employment. I just want to go out without them worrying.

[gorydetails]

Then talk to them.