Are hardships in life there for a reason?

[SarahS98]

I have bad news. My husband went to have a sperm count test recently. This is the 3rd time it's showing no sperm count, none at all. So our next appointment is with the urologist to figure out why and if it can be fixed. I'm ok on my side and would've already gotten pregnant by now.

This is something I wasn't prepared for. I had calculated my first child either 2 months shy of my 26th b-day or shortly after my b-day but depending on the reason, our dreams of having our child can get delayed. As of right now it's shattered. I can tell he's trying to be strong now but his expression says otherwise. He was really hurt with the results.

Are hardships in life (of any type) actually there for a reason?

[SnowedIn]

Eh. I'm not convinced hardships are there for a reason. They suck. Hands down. But... they can make a relationship stronger. And give you the ability to help others. We went through a stillbirth as and it was crushing but it allowed us to help friends.

[SarahS98]

Omg sorry to hear that. What a terrible experience to undergo. Right now my husband is feeling as if he let me down.

[SnowedIn]

❤️ thank you!

He's who he is. It's okay.

[exitseven]

They are not there for a reason. There is no cosmic plan for you and your husband. All you can do is see the urologist. Hopefully there is a fix. It is not all for nothing however. Nietzsche said whatever does not kill you will make you stronger. I have had hardships and they have given me new perspective on life.

[SarahS98]

Yes his appointment with the urologist is this Friday. I hope it's something that can be fixed. My husband is feeling so bad at this moment. He would've loved to get me pregnant ASAP. He kept saying ''I promise you that, I don't want to waste your years and now I've failed you''.
He's feeling so down at this moment.

[exitseven]

I can understand. Hopefully there is a fix for this.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[SarahS98]

I've updated it and I'm afraid it's bad news:
My husband can't impregnant me (the news destroyed him)... is life unfair sometimes? ↗

[CrimsonAngel09]

If nothing can be done, there are a few other options to have a child. Surrogate, adoption, and the third one which is IVF.

Maybe they are, maybe they aren't. Regardless, hardships suck, especially if you've been dealing with them for a long time.

[SarahS98]

Base on what the urologist finds, we'll proceed with solutions. We'll work this out. My heart goes out for the other people that can't conceive either. Since my exams came out ok and his didn't, he feels like he let me down but it's not his fault.

[LazerBean]

Sure, but a lot of the time that reason is just someone made bad choices. Not always, of course. But most of the time.

[SarahS98]

I can't think of anything we did bad for this to happen. I'm trying to comfort my husband. He's feeling terrible at this moment.

[LazerBean]

I wasn't speaking specifically of you when I said that. If doctors won't help you figure it out they I would highly recommend seeing some sort of natural therapist and see if there is a way you can modify your lifestyle to improve his body.

[SarahS98]

He has an appointment with the urologist this Friday. We'll find out what's causing the issue. Hopefully it's something that can be fixed.

[LazerBean]

Glad to hear that