How important is it for you to have kids?

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And if you have kids already how important was it for you to have them?

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I always dreamed of having a big family.

In the past I wanted 3-4 children of my own and wanted to adopt 1 or 2 child as well, if I was financially well off enough. I now realize it’s a very big responsibility.

I don’t know why but it was always my dream though.

Which is not so realistic now.

It would probably be more realistic to have 3 children of my own when and if I get married someday and adopt one child along with my biological children.

Who I’d love the same as my own children. It would give me the sense of happiness to know I gave someone the family they never had. With loving parents and loving siblings.

Having siblings is the best gift parents can give to their children.

By giving them siblings you give them lifetime partners in crime, lifetime best friends, they’ll never have to walk alone.

In childhood, there were two orphans my brother and I played with. I always wanted to shelter them with us, but turns out they had a grandmother taking care of them thankfully.

thegreenyogi · Accepted Answer

It's not a top priority just like marriage isn't. I'm a woman and like every woman the idea of experiencing motherhood is a beautiful romantic idea. That said considering the world we live in and what's happening to it having children or bringing new human beings into this world is not something to take lightly. So if I meet someone who shares the same desire to have a child I might do it. If it doesn't happen I won't despair and for certain I won't feel like I am worthless just because I am a woman and I don't procreate just because society tells me that becoming a wife and a mother is my only purpose on this planet and that anything else won't do.

Peter_Penetrator · Accepted Answer

I am 51. Only 3 years ago did l finally manage to find the right meds to manage my bipolar symptoms after 30 years of trying.

It would have been very selfish of me to have fathered any children. It would have been very selfish to pass this burden onto any of my kids.

It would have been very selfish of me to put them in the situation of living with a father that had my issues.

I will say this, being bipolar has robbed me of that chance to have a family of my own.

If I were to meet the right woman, l would have no issues with step-children or step-grandchildren.

Static_In_The_Attic · Accepted Answer

Freedom is a wonderful thing & as of the moment it isn’t important in my life to have kids & I would be totally ok without having them because I can always buy a goldfish instead. On the flip if I happen to meet a lovely luck lady & we happen to decide that we want little ones I’ll take off my raincoat & give her taco my love sauce.

Ozanne · Answer

I've never wanted children, and knew this even before I was a teenager. I was always wired in a way that I knew I never wanted to be pregnant. I was extremely careful all through my life using birth control, and was always careful about who I entered relationships with because they had to be on the same page as me or else it wouldn't have worked out.

I don't regret this decision, and support anyone who may feel the same way, who feels pressure from the "you just haven't met the right girl/guy yet" or "you'll change your mind someday" type of people.

Sour-rose · Answer

As i told my hair retwist lady, i don't want kids. But the thing is i don't want to  make  kids. Now having kids pre-made where I skip those golden years of teaching them that pain is real, and to use the bathroom properly, and just have them at the age of 9-14, could go for that.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I have 2 teens.
before…I didn’t care. Since ex hubby is an only child and his grandpa was dying…so I suggested to give him a grand kid. It happened. Then my mom said…have another one so she is not bored and not an only child. And it happened. Now that they are older…I encouraging them to have as many as they can when they get older. To be married and have kids…I will support them as best I can so the grand kids will carry on our legacy.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

Having children was important to us. We did have them a little later in life, so I guess we were not in a rush. We thoroughly enjoy parenthood :-). We have developed more patience, because they change all the time and present new challenges which force you to think and address versus react.

patrick994 · Answer

I don't want to get married and I am not interested in having children, I only want to focus on my working career, devote myself and excel in my passion, which is the gym, I definitely also want to be in a serious relationship, but without marriage and family;

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I always wanted kids, as a very late bloomer i had almost given up hope. Once I got into the dating game it was a red line for me. There was one woman who indicated she didn't want further kids so we went our own ways. Now in have two kids, I've had a vasectomy, I don't plan on further kids. If I were ever back in the dating pool I'd be clear to anyone that kids weren't on my radar

SolitarySolace · Answer

Personally, I don’t find it important at all for myself to gave children. I think it is important For others to have children. It’s important for my brother to have children someday and keep the family name going. Being celibate, I could care less about having my own children. Besides, I’m this day and age a woman would probably just abort it, or train it to be a gender it wasn’t born as, or off me to raise it herself. Not the best era to have children in my personal opinion.

Apple1996 · Answer

It was very important to me that I had kids. Glad I did it early! They are the best things in life 😊

mandyfire98 · Answer

Not important. If I end up having kids then I'm ok with that.

Brittanyroseee · Answer

Not important. Never has been a priority or goal or even an interest of mine. I’d rather get married or have a lifelong partner without the constraints and the burden of children. I prefer to work a career than having to be a mom.

CountryTJstar · Answer

I always wanted to have a family. It was the running momentum behind my marriage. When my ex wife and I split up I decided to focus on bettering myself.
I am 33 years old now and kind of let the notion of having kids go a little bit.

Now, I met someone incredible and I realize that just having her is fulfilling and if we end up having a baby that would be great, but there’s no trying to have one, just let life happen.

menina · Answer

Well, I already realized that if I ever have kids they will be adopted. If I have them, great. If I don't, it won't be the end of the world to me.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Definitely would have two, one only is kind of emotionally toxic. While cats are relatively easy to care for, I will have a good amount of time occupied being Da Biggest Bird. I would like 3 or 4 though, really make it feel like a home.

nastyb · Answer

im planning on having them as a single woman. having kids is the sole purpose of my existence. my life would mean nothing without children.

Simslover92 · Answer

I used to want kids now but my boyfriend has made me see that right now is just not a good time to have kids.

Vendela_ · Answer

Having kids one day is something I'd very much like to do, but I'm not in a rush. I'd like to be somewhere in my mid to late thirties before I adopt any.

bolverk · Answer

I'd have loved to have children but that has not come to be, but I've invested time and effort in the raising of my siblings and their children as a compromise.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Got sterilized at 27. Fuck having children. Knew since 7 I didn't want them.

ShesRad80 · Answer

love them but no big deal either way to be honest

Kayla45 · Answer

I'm unable to have kids of my own do due to some genetic problems I have rendering me sterile.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It's a little important but not a must

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

I will never have kids. I like spending my $$ on myself, not some annoying little boy/girl. Also, the world we live in is a fucked up rotten place. I would never give someone else the misfortune of having to bear it.

Guido · Answer

It was very important to me. I had my kids early so when I was young, I could do a lot of things with them. Best decision ever.

loveslongnails · Answer

Never was important to me, never wanted them.

Unit1 · Answer

Kids? I sleep on a mattress on the floor and i have no drivers license. What kids?

Sasha0426 · Answer

It’s not important to me. I chose I didn’t want kids.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

People want orgy for life. Therefore no kids

Sparkie460 · Answer

I already have 2 kids. I don't want anymore

Nikki1989 · Answer

I wanted kids, but my career took over.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I do not want kids at all.

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

Extremely important to me.

ejx629 · Answer

Not important. I'd rather not have any.

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