Why do stay home moms like to act like their lives are so hard?

[Anonymous]

When most mothers in the country have to work full time jobs then come home to do EVERYTHING that a stay home mom has to do by the end of the day?

Imagine standing 9 to 12 hrs after your stressful shift, be dead tired come home then have to make dinner, lunch boxes, do dishes, laundry, bathe the kids, clean the house, go grocery shopping.

All the recognition goes to stay home moms who get to fold laundry as they eat donuts on the couch while the real working mothers get no recognition for anything they do.

[Redstang88]

Well I’d probably go crazy if I was stuck in the house all day too. But it isn’t difficult

[scooogy]

Monotonous things can grow tiring, no matter what it is.

[Summeroflove]

They need something to be a victim of and get attention. A lot of women who act like this their husband is really the one working hard, then getting home to a wife who thinks her role as a stay at home mom should be watching true crime, lifetime, hallmark, getting her hair and nails done while her husband works his ass off.

Now, some stay at home moms do all the housework, raising the kids, and genuinely appreciates her husband.

But yeah I AGREE. What about what you said. Or a mom whose been raped and has a baby, single mother, working 2 jobs, and raising a child by herself. Now she can complain all day long.

[Apple1996]

Because caring for kids 24/7 with no breaks is hard compared to working cause at least they get breaks and get paid for what they do. I know a few moms that work a few days a month just so they can get a vacation away from the stress of staying at home

[Asker]

Working moms work 9 to 12 hr shifts only to come home to do all the work that you do in an entire day within just a few hours of an evening

They can afford a vacation because they work harder than you. You have it easier than them

[LazerBean]

You literally can't win with her. I agreed with her in my post and she's still mad because her being right implies that she's stupid for living the way she is.

[Apple1996]

I meant they use work as a vacation to get away. Not a real vacation

[Apple1996]

A working mom and a stay at home mom are probably doing the same amount of work all day. Neither really get free time

[Asker]

@apple1996

Your job is to watch tv as you fold laundry or eating donuts while you're in the market grocery shopping. A working mom gets yelled at by her boss when she under performs, never gets a break until lunch time because she is getting paid by the hour. If she can't get her work done, she has to work over time as long as 10 to 14 hr days. If she works as a waitress or cashier, she has to stand 8 hours a day.

You can't compare your life to that of a working moms

[Asker]

@LazerBean

you're just a disrespect nasty asshole. Just take a look at what you wrote. Says everything about your personality

[Apple1996]

My job is to make sure my kids are taken care of. Definitely no tv or eating sweets. Only tv I might be watching is cocomelon lol

[scooogy]

@Apple1996 I hear you hon, I've seen moms actually sit around at work complaining about how hard raising kids was, just to complain by the end of the shift how hard work aside from raising kids was too, which actually just consisted of complaining about kids.

[Asker]

@apple1996

Your kids will be take care of by school teacher soon. You will end up having 8 hours of free time while your kids are at school in just a few years

[Asker]

@scooogy

Working moms literally do all the work of a stay home mom within 3 to 4 hrs a night.

[Apple1996]

I have kids in school and at home. School isn't a full time baby sitter like that. And there is no free time even for moms that have kids at school they are still doing things for them

[Asker]

@apple1996

Theyre all gonna be in school in just a few years up for the next 12 years. Soon it will just be you and your tv.

[Apple1996]

I'm gonna keep having kids. There will never be a time where everyone is in school all at the same time

[Apple1996]

Also my husband is retiring at 38-39. I will literally be a stay at home mom longer then he will be working ☠️ so will both be stay at home parents then

[Asker]

@apple1996

Because you know you will have absolutely nothing to do within a few years. So that is your lie about how to keep busy. We all know you won't have any more kids

[Apple1996]

I'm planning on having 2 or 3 more. Another one here very soon

[Asker]

@apple1996

You can't even currently support your kids. You said u wanted to kick your kids out the day they turn 18.

[Apple1996]

I can support all my kids no problem. And nah I just hope for them to be independent enough to leave at 18

[Asker]

@apple1996

I have spoken to you on here before. I know a ton about you.

My mom worked a full time job and then came home to do everything a stay home mom does in a day within just 3 hrs. She did this for 25 years. From the day I was born till her youngest son moved out of the house. This is what real hard work is.

[Asker]

My mom retired at 60 a few years ago, she told me ot was the first time in her life she ever had any real time off.

[LazerBean]

Yeah it definitely sounds like your life sucks compared to a woman whose husband is competent enough to either make all the money or split chores. I don't know why anyone would be with a man that useless.

[Asker]

Well you work so im sure your husband is one of those losers too

[Redstang88]

Reality is there are very few places left that you could support anything near a decent quality of life on one income

[LazerBean]

Not even close. I work as many or few hours as I feel, which is rarely more than 10 hours a week and often 0 hours a week. All the money I make goes directly into our fun budget.

[Redstang88]

Didn’t say you aren’t, I’m saying it’s extremely rare. Even when you ignore the city, you have to be making +200k/ yr to even consider buying an average house. Double that here

[LazerBean]

I was replying to OP.

[Asker]

@lazerbean

Quite funny how you're shaming husbands for not being able to support housewives while you were seen bragging in another post a long time ago about how much money you were making in your career

you're just a nasty lady, aren't you?

[Asker]

@lazerbean

Lets face it, your husband can't afford to give you the life you want. Thats why you're working.

[LazerBean]

Why don't you drop the link to that post then? I said in the past that if I did work using my degree, I would be making significantly. But I've never said I make any significant amount, nor that I work a significant amount to begin with. I can't blame you for trying to make yourself feel better about your pitiful, self inflicted situation though.

[LazerBean]

Also kinda low IQ move to pull out the "shaming" card when your post is just that.

[Asker]

@lazerbean

I dont feel like Im in a pitiful situation. I want to be a working mother because im not lazy. I believe in working hard in life to achieve greatness.

[Asker]

[Also kinda low IQ move to pull out the "shaming" card when your post is just that.]

you're the one shaming on here, nobody else. Saying other people's lives suck or disrespecting other peoples husbands.

You sound like your life sucks. You sound like a miserable wretch

[LazerBean]

Oh so you couldn't find the link because you're a liar on top of being a whiney who complains about how hard your life is despite choosing a pathetic excuse of a man who made your life that way? Yeah, I know it was obvious. I can't imagine being so selfish as to rob my children of my time just so I could brag about how I do everything in the house. Smh.

[LazerBean]

You literally made a post complaining about stay at home moms, you are shaming people and then getting triggered when they treat you the same way. You aren't that crazy Mormon lady whose husband got stolen by a younger woman, are you? Y'all both have the same victim mentality

[Asker]

@lazerbean

Stay home moms starve their kids and can't send their kids to college

Your kids will just suffer if you're a stay home mom

Just the same way you will suffer living a shitty life if you didn't work.

[Asker]

[You aren't that crazy Mormon lady whose husband got stolen by a younger woman, are you?]

you're the one who is married. Im not. So you're the one who should be afraid of your husband leaving you for a younger prettier woman once you hit your 40s.

Thats your worry, not mine

[LazerBean]

My mom was a stay at home mom and I graduated from college with honors. My husband mom is a stay at home mom and they are some of the most well respected people on the community.

And you're a single mother, just like your mom was? Just shows that producing bastard children runs through the blood. You've produced children who are living a disadvantaged life just like your mom did

[Asker]

@apple1996

Is it better to be a stay home mom and struggle to feed your kids and can't send them to college OR work a job and do everything you can to provide your kids a good life?

Poverty raises poor children. Not single motherhood.

Im pretty sure you never graduated from college. College educated women dont tend to become stay home wives

[LazerBean]

Actually children from broken families (like yours) are more likely to be poorly educated, criminals, and also abused. Have fun with the little time you get to spend with your diseased kids that are raised by the daycare rather than you

[Asker]

@lazerbean

Because single mothers are more likely to be under poverty than married parents or single fathers. This isn't true for rich single mothers.

Studies show that children born to financially unstable couples tend to do worse in life at EVERY AGE compared to kids born to financially rich parents

[LazerBean]

Nah, it's because they have your failure genes.

[LazerBean]

You act like you choosing to be a dumb hoe who got knocked up by a loser wasn't something you chose to allow lmao

[Asker]

@lazerbean

At least some people can actually get pregnant instead of some miserable wretch who has been married 10 years and still can't have any kids

[LazerBean]

At least some people are producing kids that are productive members of society instead of producing generation after generation of miserable bastard leech children, like your family

[Asker]

@lazerbean

A child born to a rich single mom who can afford to send her kid to ivy league colleges is way better off than your broke ass who can't even send her kid to college. Thus your kid is unable to get a good job and as a result can't feed themselves in life

Your husband can't even support your infertile ass. How would he be able to support kids? Haha

[Asker]

Just wait till your husband leaves you for a woman who is young and fertile.

[LazerBean]

Lmao projection much? You're saying my man's gonna leave me one day but your man's Already gone 😂

[Asker]

@lazerbean

You can't have kids. Why wouldn't your man leave you? Haha married for so long and no kids... is pretty good proof you are likely infertile

Men leave their wives for younger women all the time. Just wait till your time comes.

[LazerBean]

You don't have to wait, your time already came 😂 he gone girl

[Asker]

@lazerbean

I don't need a husband to have a kid. I make 100 an hr. I can support my kid and send it to the most elite schools and live in the richest neighborhoods.

on the other hand, you can't even get pregnant.

there is a real good reason why your husband would leave you in the near future.

[Asker]

its not like your husband would be able to support a family anyways. he can't even support you! haha

[Anonymous]

So it’s very obvious that you’ve never been a stay at home mother. Come back and say this after you’ve tried it for a while. You’re clueless.

[Asker]

I grew up with a full time working mother. She did the job of a stay home mom WHILE working a tr job. I know what hard is, you dont

[exitseven]

When I became unemployed when my kids were in grade school my wife went from working 3 mornings a week to full time. I stayed home with the kids. It was fun sometimes but it really was a full time job.

[Asker]

More like an easy full time job where u get to fold laundry on the couch as you eat donuts

[exitseven]

It is like anything else. You can probably do the bare minimum and it is a soft ride but if you do the job right, there is a lot to is and there is a lot of multitasking, especially if you jhave 3 kids.

[Asker]

@exitseven

Yea multi tasking folding laundry while watching tv

Eating donuts while you're grocery shopping

Listening to the radio and singing while cooking

Having the washing machine wash your clothes

Having the dishwasher was your dishes

Having the vacuum clean your floors

Or having 8 hours a day of free time while the kids are at school everyday

[exitseven]

Oksy- have you ever had to take care of a home and 3 school aged kids. ?

[Asker]

@exitseven

I was raised by a working mom who worked 9 hrs a day then come home to do all the work a stay home mom would do within 3 hrs every night. My father worked full time too

[Asker]

Kids are at school all day. Theyre not with the mom all day

[jahaims]

You don't understand what being a stay at home parent entails apparently. It is silly to have a strong opinion on a subject you don't know about.

[Vegasrunner]

Woman typically are lazy when it comes to resource creation. Playing the role of stay at home mom helps w/ that.