Why do so many stay at home moms play the victim?

[Anonymous]

Obviously not all are like this. Some are greatful love thier husband and their children. Sure they have their problems.

But. It’s always just woe is me… My life is so hard that I never have to work a day in my life. I take care of my kids, cook, clean, etc. Like any other mom would have to do on top of working a job.

I feel bad for some of their husbands. Especially if they’re working all the time and can’t even come home to relax. Just a nagging ungrestful wife. It would be nice if she divorced her husband, took the kids, and seen what life is life for a single mom trying to work and raise her kids.

I don’t know why in 2024 everyone has to find reasons to be a victim. Life is so easy now compared to what it used to be.

Im not saying raising kids is a walk in the park. But. Dang… Being a mom in the Days before technology that would be hard.

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+1 y

I’ve had men and women tell me NEVER be with a woman who wants to be a stay at home mom. I’m sure there are great women (and men) who want to be stay at home parents. It’s one thing if later in life if you can afford it if she stays home with the kids (long as there is give and take). Men in the military, even from some stay at home moms themselves to avoid them at all costs.

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+1 y

I don’t think I’ve met a man whose truly happy in a relationship where the woman stays home. Ever…. Actually I think some pretended to be happy. But deep down they weren’t, especially if it ended in divorce

[Anonymous]

Do they? That heasn't been my experience. Most single mom's I know feel blessed to be able to stay home with their children and be the best mom's they can be. Not many mothers have that privilege to day and they ones who do tend to be conscius of the fact that they are omong the prinileged few.

Keep in mind too that there is a lot of guilt among working mothers because they feel like they are not doing right by tehir children. It's a very difficult position to be in. Most working mothers wish they could be home with their kids if they could.

[Asker]

As I said I’ve met single momms who are like this. Super grateful and happy. But a lot of them say you have to be careful.

Do some genuinely love their kids and their husbands? Absolutely.

[Asker]

But as you can see. I gave her MHO only because I have a few answers otheriwse I would give it to you.

But. You aren’t bitching and complaing about how hard your life is. As the one above is….

[Anonymous]

Being a mom back in the days meant not seeing the kids all day except when they would come in to eat or go to bed because the rest of the day they would be out on their own playing with other kids outside. Nobody even knowing where they were and that was fine.

Until you’ve been a stay at home parent shut up. I’ve heard so many people think like you, especially men, only to get a reality check real fast once they went on paternity leave.

[Asker]

How do you know my life? You don’t lady. You’re probably one of those poor poor pitiful me people.

[Asker]

Yeah. A lot of people have paternity leave. Then they’re working to come home to take care of the kids.

Everyone wants to be a victim in 2024 and never faced and real challenges in life. I

[Asker]

The whole fact that you’re triggered. Says I must have said something that resonated. Because if I was so wrong…. You wouldn’t care

[Asker]

And. Ask any divorce lawyer, someone in mental health, relationship coaching, and the list goes on what’s the worst profession for women. Anyone being honest will immediately say stay at home moms. Private investigators. Anyone.

I ain’t saying they’re all this way. Some aren’t. And the ones that aren’t will say to be careful who you choose

[Lliam]

I don't know. You're sounding like a victim right now. Why are you complaining?

[Asker]

I’m complaining because it’s just annoying