Do you sometimes have this feeling that people around you are two-faced? How do you overcome it? How do I regain trust in people around me?

[Anonymous]

I don't say all of them. And not always. But for me, it is exactly now.

And I'm tired. I think emotionally, but it makes me weak physically.

I was hurt by someone who should have been a friend and became a snake.

[NathanDavis]

not really... but I've been very selective with the people that are in my life, and most of them, I've known them for decades

whenever I meet someone new for any reason... I do not usually think that they are two faced or that they might have bad intentions

I just think that I really don't know all about them, which is normal of course... and I also think that they might have intentions or ideas, that might not align with mine, and that's okay too, we're not all the same

and then, it all depends about we reach to each other, the circumstances, the context and all that... I do not usually just trust or open to people on everything just like that, in other ways, I would not place myself in a position in which they could do a wrong to me... or also, I would make sure that I could be aware of their intentions

in other words... I just take my time with people

[Asker]

I have known this person for a very long time.

[NathanDavis]

what about the rest of the people in your life...

where things failed, with one person... might have been an isolated situation, that does not apply to the rest of the people in your life, known or new people in your life

was this something that happened fairly recently? maybe you're still trying to understand what happened, why it happened... maybe that isn't clear enough yet or is not making any sense yet

sometimes, the best way to overcome a difficulty of this type is when we try a bit harder to understand how it all went they way it went

a better understanding can lead to more clarity, and that clarity can sometimes bring our mind to ease, and gives us a chance for us to start to heal

[Still-alive]

I used to think like that myself. now what i do is i simply assume the other person has good intentions until they say or do something that proves otherwise. i feel like its healthier to go about my days like this instead. Eventually you will see a persons true colors. so even if they are putting on an act eventually the mask slips off. thats when you drop them.

[Asker]

I use the same strategy. I assume people are good. I trust.

But what I'm not good with is overcome the fear it will happen again

[Still-alive]

Just mentally prepare yourself for that possibility to the point where it doesn't surprise you much anymore.

[Asker]

Sounds like a solution... just how to do it?

[Still-alive]

Keep a distance. especially in the very beginning. be nice an cordial and polite but don't overshare things with them until some time passes where you truly get to know each other. say 6 months to a year. it takes time. then in case during this time they do reveal their true colors you won't be as emotionally invested in them to care all that much.

[Asker]

I have known this person much longer

[Still-alive]

Well you gotta cut this person out then. toxic people should have no place in your life. you just gotta get better at noticing the signs earlier next time.

[Altheavas]

Stop giving a Danm, make it all about yourself. The more you care the more you get hurt. Their feelings, behaviors and actions are not your responsibility, why carrying it for them? They made a choice, and it’s a reflection of their character or whatever influence them personally at moment in their life to response that way! Remove yourself if you have to!

[RoseySarah]

Take time and yeah so many people are 2 faced.

It's way to much effort for me to do that so I'm just honest.

Take time heal just be around those you feel you can trust and don't do things that need trust.

If they don't show you have 2 other gfs who will.

[Mansearching]

Can't trust anyone at first. Gut instincts are always right.

But got to get to know them before trusting them.

I understand where you're coming from. In same place myself.

[BLP11520]

Oh yeah, after I pulled the knife out of my back?’

[Asker]

I feel like I'm pulling this fucking knife now. The most painful possible way

[Malwi93]

Girl don’t tell me. This friend of mine started to request money to talk to him

[Joshydavid25]

Nah not usually only cause I really don't get that close to many people for that to happen.. But it'll probably take time for them to regain your trust after they hurt you, and it'll have to be deliberately on their part..

[Amiapowerlessman]

Don’t dwell on them, they are not meant to be in your life… sorry to hear that but the best thing to do is move on… don’t be so open about your self/ feelings around people you really must make your reads on a person before you open up

[jogeb907433]

I have two faces and most people think I'm a good guy, only a couple of people have distrusted me by analyzing my attitude.

[Jennz6]

Don’t trust anyone

[Asker]

I don't think I can. But maybe it's time to learn it the hard way :/

[Jennz6]

That’s what happened to me

[Anonymous]

Easy. I assume EVERYBODY is lying to me at least 50% of the time. How do i overcome it? I keep my circle small. I have many acquaintances but very few friends.

[worldscolide]

Sometimes. Its sad but true. And those people get removed from my life.

[Anonymous]

I think humans are a little two faced

We should be concerned if we are not two faced which we call liars

[collie22]

Forgive but don't forget