Do you have trust issues? how do you cope up with them?

[Wild_princess]

I have serious trust issues. my ex best friend broke my trust and now I don't trust people who I know are faithful and trustworthy... I can't forget her betrayal, I don't let anyone to come as near as she was cause I am afraid that someone will break my heart again so badly...

[Tish94]

Yes I do have a trust issue ( actually a massive problem)

Back story: my ex cheated and most of our friends knew tho when I asked about it... they knew nothing at all. That was until one day I was mentally to be working till 10 and in walked miss actually a stipper 🙄 no jokes but a real life stripper. And was like ohhhh you must be the roommate its good to finally meet you. And all he said was oh fuck your home. Can I have a minute 🤢

I then asked how long and he later told me for 3 months. And all of them knew. Issue was the man had no money to move out and non of his oh so great friends wanted to offer him a bed 🤣

Currently working on this issue 🙃. But it does effect a person long term. I second guess loving words and emotional investment from my current partner and i can see that it hurts him. I cope by telling myself that not every single person is the same because I would not break someone's trust that way and there has to be more of "me/ people like me " out there

[FictionalCharacter]

Yeah I have trust issues from childhood all the throughout the years. And if anyone are willing to take a chance on me, I open up to that person and explain what has hurt me in the past. That their response is ”I’m not like that. I’ll be your friend”. Then boom, they use the same tactics from previous trauma.

So, yeah I don’t trust easily. Cause I’ve heard “I’m not like that/I’ll never do that to you”. Waaaay too many fuckin times to actually believe it now.

[ThiccBoai]

Yes I do. Not nearly as much as I used to.

I am carefull with who I trust. If I don't think someone it trustworthy enough I'll just stay on a distance. Only if I get good vibes from someone will I go in deeper.

However I don't protect myself anymore like I used to. Nowadays I just keep in mind that everybody can betray me at any point. This means that I'm not as close as I would like to be with some, but it has happened enough times that I'm willing to make sacrifices. I just keep that on my mind at all times to pretect myself from the impact. Besides that don't really do to much with it. I just hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
Someone backstabs me again or does something else like that? Well, at least I prepared.

Plus if someone wants to walk away it's fine. I don't NEED anyone. I just choose to keep people around me. If someone walks away, someone else will fill the spot instead. Worrying about it makes my life worse, so I try not to think about it

[jshm2]

Don't be such a woosy. No, seriously.

If you adopt the first dog you like in a kennel, and it attacks you, then you are the idiot, not the dog.

You need to understand just because you "like" something, doesn't make it safe by default. You might be a terrible judge of character and have a shitty taste in friends, but that should only make you aware you don't understand people. Not that you are a good judge of people.

You got a bad experience from one person. That should only give you the onus to avoid that one person, and make you assess your existing relationships for those behaviours. Never do guilt by association, that sort of racist/bigoted habit is best left in the dark ages.

[Wild_princess]

Are you comparing my feeling with a dog...😒😒?

[Orange_moi]

Personally, I don't have trust issues and I don't know if I can advise you but I'm gonna try it.
Most of the time when I have someone that's becoming special for me I just blindly trust her/him cause' I know that trust's everything in a relationship.
Right now, I don't really care if someone breaks my heart again cause I know that there are wonderful people out there. If I don't give them the opportunity to get cose to me I couldn't know what life could be with them in it.
I just have hope.
I wanna give everything of me in every relationship. Life is too short to have regrets and I'm trying my best to don't have them.
I know that can be difficult and we want to be vulnerable with the right people, but just use your judgment and time, everything will be clear with them.
Good luck!
I hope you the best.

[Jjpayne]

Sometimes I do... Assuming the worst is never good. But in order for trust to work you have to take a risk. But sometimes it's an open and honest talk with your partner. "I am choosing to trust you, but if you show me I can't trust you at some point that will be very damaging, I need you to be open and honest with me at all times no manner how painful..." It may not sound exactly like that but say what's on your heart. Trust is a sacrifice but trust also needs to be earned and it's earned by showing that you can be trusted and you need to allow the ability for someone to prove that to you

[Wild_princess]

After a betrayal... it's hard to trust people...😔😔

[Jjpayne]

It is tough thats why you start with friends first because you have to heal after you experienced a bad trusting moment

[Alfleria]

I don’t think I have trust issue. Even though I got cheated by 3 different men. All I have is this insecurities.
My current boyfriend have a trust issue. Massive one. He checked my WhatsApp chats from time to time. He thinks I didn’t know that, but I do know and I choose to let him be. Why? Although it hurts me knowing that he doesn’t trust me fully, I love him enough to ensure him that he got nothing to worry about.
Massive trust issue is a problem for sure. But I’m trying my best to “fix” him.
If you’re lucky, you’ll find a partner that will do the same like I did. 😉
Anyway, in short, those betrayals didn’t make me have trust issue. I think it depends on your way of thinking. Sure it hurts but after some time, let it go, bury it, and move on. You’re stronger than you think.

[Nadim171]

You don't have an issue, that's how you're supposed to be. As Baltasar Gracian said: When you tell someone your secret you become that person's slave.
But ofc, your life would be miserable if you don't trust anyone at all. Only trust 2 kinds of people:
1) those who you know for a long time and you're sure actually love you.
2) those that also told you their secrets, if they mess with you you can also equally harm them. The gun is no longer pointed at you alone, you're also pointing a gun at them. It's a mexican standoff.

[Wild_princess]

The second one look like a deal😓😓

[Nadim171]

Stay away from people you know might betray you, or if you have to interact with them, just beware of what they might do. Never trust what they say and expect that their intentions are different from what they say they are.

[RemoErdosain]

It's possible I do. I know I won't trust so easily after my ex cheated on me and lied to me about it. How I intend to cope with it is by not involving in a relationship unless maybe with a girl who won't put me in a situation not to trust her. If I notice some signs early on, I just won't go with it this time, and then I won't have a reason to worry, or at least not early on

[Don-_-Don]

I try not to have any trust issues when it comes to who I'm dating.
If I don't think I can trust my partner, then I shouldn't be with them.
If they do do something to break my trust then the relationship is over, no second chances, no nothing.
And I will not allow my past failures get in the way of any future relationships, but I will always stay aware.

[Unit1]

I have them

https://www.youtube.com/embed/vMGpBAOD2CI

Can't trust these b*tches.
How I deal with it? I expect disappointment and let people surprise me if they do better than my expectation ;)
And if they disappoint me, then I am not going to be surprised or disappointed for very long because I have low expectations already.

[Browneye57]

What is a 'trust issue'. I hate that term - 'issue'. Why not just call it what it really is?
I always say, "Trust but verify". If your partner is non-functioning because of their own hang-ups, it's up to YOU to discern, to decide if it's a deal-breaker or not. For me, I wouldn't waste my time with someone that has a lot of 'issues'. LOL

[Ayo_pixieee]

I have trust issues due to being cheated on and past childhood trauma but I really try to put forth some trust in people... i try!! 😊 I just tell myself that not everyone is the sa. e, not everyone wants to hurt me or will hurt me.. i have to literally pep talk myself into trying to let go and trust.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Don't mistrust others due to someone else. After all this other person hasn't wronged you and doesn't deserve to be mistrusted.

[SphynxUK]

I don’t have any trust issues.
I trust my judgement.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure i do. How do i cope with them. That's real simple i don't trust people. And considering how many women created this in me i really don't feel bad about it. Sorry, not sorry.

[AlwaysBelieving]

There's a saying I go by: "trust is given freely, but retained trust is earned."

[Liam_Hayden]

No. I don't prejudge others because of what someone else did.

[jahaims]

No I don't treat anyone differently just because I was done wrong by someone.

[mrgspoter]

Yes and i don't lol as it's useualy right to not trust I just trust myself can't really trust someone else can you

[JamesBlackDragon]

No but I do have a truth issue I tend to speak it a lot and a lot of people don't like it

[Be4rdy]

I dont trust anyone full stop. Human beings are the worst.

[luvstoned4him]

I dont, they still fester!

[PiffDust]

I do, i don't trust anyone anymore