Have u ever felt like u don't fit in?

[Monalisa77]

What have u done to try?

[tfan1]

All my life. Even to this day. I never learned how to make friends, when I was in school to fit in you had to be into sports, or swear. I chose neither of those and was a loner. Main reason I couldn’t fit in is that I couldn’t tell when they were serious, kidding or sarcastic. When I thought they were serious- they were kidding or sarcastic. When I thought they were kidding they were serious or sarcastic. It’s a miracle that I married a wonderful Chinese girl because she’s never sarcastic. If she kids she laughs or smiles. If she’s serious, she has a serious face. To this day I have no real world friends, only online ones who I’ve never met face to face.

[Monalisa77]

I was into sports and swore yet stll didn't fit in

[NathanDavis]

when I didn't exactly fit in... I didn't mind it

so I didn't feel like I had to fit nor like I should do something about it... I was just myself either way, lol

[Monalisa77]

I feel like people can take advantage and manipulate u when they know ur weak

[NathanDavis]

that is possible, yes...

however, at least for myself... just because I didn't fit in or didn't follow the crowd, that didn't mean I was a weak person, not in the least

but I think I know what you mean... in some cases, those that stand out are targeted by the group and pushed down as well, when they tried that on me they quickly found out that was just not going to happen

but yeah, it is not easy, I know that very well... and it brings consequences too but oh well, unfortunately, that's part of life... sometimes you're accepted and welcomed, other times you're rejected and kicked out, that's a difficult situation to be in, yes

[Monalisa77]

The current huy i like that suddenly started flirting with me outa nowhere I've had paranoia someone even put him up to it or there's something fishy going on. the only thing that helped that was that my cousin doesn't think hed mess with me like that but it doesn't stop that niggling feeling.

I dont know if its anxiety or when i get these feelings of bad things happening if they could actually be true

[Monalisa77]

Guy...

[NathanDavis]

it might be just anxiety... what would make think that people would just plan out that much just to mess with you?

have you had bad experiences like this before?

[Monalisa77]

Yeah i think quite a few times and plus never having been near a guy doesn't help. there's this guy whos been posting videos aimed at me in the chat and said a couple things that looked like he was taking the piss so i left but my mum and other people who know him said i was over reacting, i even said to his daughter id mure him n she just laughed at it

[NathanDavis]

where they really making fun of you... or just joking around?

[Monalisa77]

The guys? One was gay and i think only acted like he liked me cos his friends put him up to it. He had no intention of asking me out or anything. Then there was another 1 who was trying to wind me up n either I upset them or he stopped once they realised i actually liked him

The 1 on the chat.. Well i wasn't reacting so i clearly didn't find it funny

[NathanDavis]

well, although you have had bad experiences... I really don't think that would be an actual reason to distrust someone new

I don't think the events or the people are related... and maybe you should just give it a try

[Monalisa77]

he's just completly different to me and it doesn't make sense. he's only been flirting, doesn't make the effort to get to know me and he could message me if he wanted, although fue to my anxiety i didn't react to the flirting n made no signs i liked him

[Monalisa77]

The guy i like is in the chat so im confused why he's not put anything in it unless he's really insecure and shy and doesn't think i like him lol but he's so popular and social with everyone and people like him in general

[abbyjgriffin98]

Yeah, I have. At first, I would try to fit in like the others. When I realized I sucked at it, I stopped trying amd started being myself instead. I found a lot more success when I wasn't trying to be something else.

[Monalisa77]

I struggle to really know what myself is when I've got. a controlling and overbearing mother

[Nikki1989]

I have never fitted in with mainstream people. Luckily, I know many people just like me.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't intend to fit in, nor do I intend to stand out.

I just do what I enjoy, and if others enjoy those things too, I hang out with those people.

If no one around me does, then I'm doing what I enjoy by myself.

I'm not going to change what I do just to have company, lonely or not. Because if I do that, I won't be me anymore. And clearly its worse to not exist than it is to be alone.

[Jbear27]

I know I’m different and I like that. I don’t exactly want to fit in as people often make an attempt to see how I tick and how better to fit in with me.

[exitseven]

I have felt like that my whole life. I tried to be more in line with everyone else but I did not like being a phony. So either you like me or you don't.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I’m an individual & I do my own thing & I live my own life & to be honest I wouldn’t want to fit in.

[MissStrawberry912]

Yes but I am just my own person and that’s what matters

[TallAnon]

I've learned to fit in just enough to where people don't give a fuck

[Andres77]

Being a left-handed introvert with Asperger’s… oh yeah

[Alex8736]

I never try but then again growing up people always told me I have a leader personality and independent

[LiamJHayden]

Often, but I don't care. I just make my own road.

[BLP11520]

Many times, in my life. A very uncomfortable feeling. I have to be myself, my humor and personality bothers some.

[Anonymous]

When I was younger. I think most people do when they're young.

[aceleon]

until age 15-16 then i grow up.

[jahaims]

Yeah, I don't try to fit in.

[Starrrboy]

Story of my life lol..

[TiaNour]

A lot of times

[OddBeMe]

Only every human on earth.

[Jmmmfi4]

Definitely not

[ThebestIndian]

I walk away if I feel like that..!

[Anonymous]

I love fitting it idgaf

[eagle1951]

many times