Were any of you an “oops” child? Meaning you weren’t planned. Was it a good thing or a bad thing?

[Beckybooboo]

I’m the youngest of four and the only girl, so to say I am spoiled is an understatement! Especially since my mom always wanted a girl but gave up after my third brother was born. Then on night, when there was a power outage, mom and dad apparently got bored and nine months later, their gift from heaven arrived. 😂 I actually love being the youngest but I know some have a different experience. So, were any of you an “oops” baby? Did you find being the youngest good or bad?

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Oops child here. My parents were dating and surprise, this guy came along. My biological father did not stick around, so it was a little challenging, growing up with a single mother, but I think I turned out OK :-). I was loved and have an amazing family that helped my mom, and were good examples of a loving family for me.
No regrets.
Sidenote: my mom started dating when I entered college, and my stepdad is a phenomenal individual and a great grandpa to our children. He lost his first wife to cancer.

[Beckybooboo]

My mom has a very similar story as you and me, actually. She was the youngest of four and the only girl. About a month after she was born, her dad left. She never met him. Growing up it was tough on her but she had an uncle and her three brothers that kinda filled in.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

@Beckybooboo strong, supportive families, and all the difference in the situation :-). I'm sure it was very hard on my mom to break the news, and I have no idea why my biological father refuse to be around. He stayed in the area. My mom says that he was afraid of his father who is an alcoholic. At any rate, I feel like I grew up in a great family and I'm generally glad that my biological father is not part of my life.

[Beckybooboo]

I just told another opiner that it never occurred to me, when writing this question, that the first born could be unplanned. I was just thinking of my situation, where my parents didn’t plan on having more children. I’m actually wondering if it’s more common for the first born being unplanned.

[ohsheeT]

There's no such thing as an oops child if you're on this planet then you were meant to be here

What people don't understand is this planet is special every person on this planet is special.

Everything on this planet no matter what it is is special

Everything on this planet is energy it's God's energy it's universal energy

And if you're on this planet you were meant to be here to be a part of whatever it is that we are going through

People that understand energy and understand that they can be and have and do anything in this world that they want to it's their given right as coming to this planet all you have to do is ask believe in it with your heart and your mind and follow through there is no such thing as an oops child

[Simslover92]

Yeah I'm definitely an oops child. I was definitely not planned. My mom was not married at the time and barely knew my dad. Had she known him, she might not have gotten in the predicament of getting pregnant from him.

[Beckybooboo]

When I thought of this question, I never even thought about the first born being unplanned. I only thought about my situation, where they didn’t plan on having more children but did. I guess the world doesn’t revolve around me.

[Simslover92]

Oh no its fine. I understand. I wouldn't have thought of the middle child or later child being unplanned. I would have thought all kids after the first would have been planned.

[Anonymous]

I was, and it's been ruining my life. I wasn't wanted nor loved. I was mentally and physically abused. As an adult I've been unable to have any sort of relationships. I wish I had been aborted.

[Beckybooboo]

This makes me want to cry. Nobody should go through life being abused and unloved. I know saying I’m sorry is cheap but I really am. I wish I could be your friend.

[Andres77]

I was conceived about 3 am on January first. Two strangers. I was not planned. I met my dad and his family when I was 19. Both sides of my family have stated often and clearly that I’ve been a blessing to them.

blessing in disguise.

[Beckybooboo]

That’s so nice to hear! I’m told that all the time, mainly by my mom because I was the baby girl she always wanted,

[Andres77]

We were all 4 years apart. I wasn’t spoiled. I had to catch up. My mom was tough but fair. By the time my oldest brother moved out I was 14 and I had to paint the whole inside and outside of the house on my own, including moving the scaffolding. 16’ peak in the house.

[Andres77]

It is good to be wanted.

[JacobJordan]

hmm I was a rape baby. my birth dad raped my birth mom. then heavily abused her during the pregnancy. so I suppose that counts.

wife response: husband would be and I personally am very happy he survived because I can't imagine my life without him

[FunkyMonkee]

As far as I know, none of us were actually planned. They WANTED kids but it wasn't like, "Okay, let's make one right now.". It just happened when it happened.

[Anonymous]

Even though I was “planned” I hate my life currently and for a long time. Childhood was good though. Working hard for many years to get in a happy place. Genetic mental illness made adult life hard and then the pain of the resulting life is amplified by the condition that caused me to be a failure in the first place! Medicine is the only thing that keeps me alive.

[NathanDavis]

yes, I was...

and a hit to the finances as well

my older brother was not amused... lmfao

[SotiCoto]

If I'd been "planned" I'd probably have killed my mother to balance things out. I already resent her enough as is for imposing existence on me.

[Heolurt]

I was a mistake and even worse, when I was born, my mom wanted to give me up for adoption but she wanted more kids so giving one up and having more didn't look good on her so I was kept but constantly reminded of how I was not wanted.

[mandyfire98]

My brother was an uh oh baby but I was planned.

[Beckybooboo]

Is he younger or older?

[mandyfire98]

He's older

[Beckybooboo]

You don’t have to worry about Wally bothering you anymore. I guess his account is froze. 😂 He said he’s done with GAG. I got a message from a mutual friend a couple minutes ago.

[mandyfire98]

What? What did he do? I like Wally

[Beckybooboo]

I don’t know. I know he had a couple questions removed for “trolling” or something, then his account was frozen. I’m not surprised, he would get out of hand but I would laugh at some of nonsense.

[mandyfire98]

Jesus. I like Wally. He's funny

[Beckybooboo]

😂😂 You two are hilarious! Hopefully he’ll be back.

[Apple1996]

I was a big oops baby. They really weren't planning for me

[HouseMoat]

I'm an only child. Rumor has it I was since I was conceived out of wedlock, supposedly

[BLP11520]

I was told I was so I did not help matters at all in my childhood

[Anonymous]

I was an oops, which led to my being abandoned, put up for adoption, then abandoned again.

[Anonymous]

my daughter is a oops child