My parents don’t let me have people over and it’s giving me anxiety?

[Anonymous]

They never have allowed me to have friends or anyone over, it doesn’t really bother me but my friends are starting to say it’s weird that I never invite them over, the few times I’ve invited people over my dad gets very angry at me for it (I think he gets anxious people break things etc) what should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

That sucks, I can see how not being able to have people over would make hanging out hard. And yeah, your friends are right - it is kinda weird. Some things you could try:

- Talk to your parents and compromise. Ask if you can have 1-2 people at a time, keep it in common areas, and clean up after. Reassure them you'll be responsible.

- Suggest a board game/movie night so it's a more lowkey thing to ease them into the idea.

- Invite your parents along too sometimes so they're included and can see your friends aren't wild.

- When your dad gets mad, stay calm and don't argue. Give them space then go back diplomatically.

- Ask friends if you can all hang at their places sometimes instead. Rotate who hosts.

- Maybe your dad will chill out more as you get older too.

See if any of that could help open things up a bit. In the meantime, don't stress - just keep hanging with your friends other places. Their job is to protect you too so try seeing it from their side also. It'll work out!

[WhitneySnow]

Go hang at their house

[Asker]

I do, but they don’t get why I don’t invite them over

[jahaims]

You're 25 get your own place

[Staximus]

Go hang out at their place or move out

[slatyb]

You should move out.