I don't feel comfortable around my parents. They are way too intense. ALL I WANT IS FREEDOM. Help?

[iamaconfusedfemale]

My mom and dad are really extreme! It doesn't make me feel good. They overexaggerate about everything, you name it! If I get in trouble, all hell breaks loose. They don't do the same for my siblings! It's so unfair! They're strict, not sympathetic at all, and unpredictable!

I don't like sharing my personal life with them, I don't like them watching me, and I don't like to be around them. They treat me like a little kid so much it drives me crazy! The other week, I got into serious trouble with them because I was so angry! And now they still want to have a "talk" with me. The point is, they're so overwhelming it drives me crazy! I'm only 14, so there's not much I can do to ignore them. They're always on my tail! Is it too much to ask for just SOME freedom?

I CAN'T WAIT UNTIL I'M 18 AND MOVE OUT!!! ✋🏻😭

[Nye221]

You sound like you might be a rebellious teen but I also understand feeling the need to be liberated from your parents. My best advice to you is to appeal to your parents' good side. If you know something you say or do will cause an uproar AVOID it. Show them that they can trust you to just be whatever it is they're expecting of you. Do your homework, do your chores, stay off your electronics during your parents "check in" times. When you're 16 immediately get a job. If your parents try arguing against it start with a job at your highschool (if possible) or local library or something in safe walking distance. Tell them you want to learn responsibility and independence so they have a little less to worry about. At the end of the day they just want what's best for you and if you're the oldest child or oldest daughter they'll most likely be more hard on you because they want you to be the best you can be or set a good example for your siblings. Trust me, I'm 22 living with my parents and they (my mom specifically) still try to treat me like I'm 16/17 sometimes.

[Bethany22]

I regret moving out in my last year of college as parents still managed to waltz in unannounced whenever I needed a space. So all I wound up accomplishing that year was more student debt. If you're not already working, get a part time job to help you feel better about your capabilities and so that they will be forced to respect you more now that you have more power.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

This is one of those time you have to just deal with it.

At this age we feel that they are intense , and to them it feels like we are just impossible.

Find yourself lucky if your parents are just strict and not abusive.

Their are kids at foster homes and all that who are treated bad mostly and have to fight to survive.

So if you consider all that what you are going through i a problem of very short term.

[Summeroflove]

It depends. A lot of kids say their parents are extreme but really aren’t. Other times the are over protective. What is right for one family might not be for another.

are you wanting to sleep around and do drugs and stuff like that? Yeah. They’re looking out for you so you don’t destroy your life.

it really just depends. If you’re a good kid and don’t really get into a lot of trouble and they act like that. Then ehhhh

[iamaconfusedfemale]

But I'm not wanting to sleep around or do drugs._.

[Summeroflove]

I understand. Your parents might be looking out for you. I believe you. But you’re a child. When you grow up

[Nessieeeeee]

I was the SAME exact way girl trust me. I felt exactly like how you do but probably worse sadly. I got myself into dumb shit because I ignored their rules and chose to do what I wanted. My parents were always furious with me and we would always fight and scream. I even got kiced out because i wanted freedom from them. I ended up getting super hurt, heartbroken, and mentally damaged from the choices I made cause I wanted freedom and didn't listen to them. It turns out, parents truly know what's best for you. My parents told me that what I was doing is wrong and really stupid but I never listened but they were right all along as if they could see the future. Don't make the same mistakes I did. Your parents really care about you a lot trust me. They want to protect you from pain and don't want you to face the consequences of freedom given at such a young age. Freedom gives u access to so much stuff that really can hurt someone as young as us, even me being 16 im not mentally mature for a lot. My parents have truly protected me from a lot and i'm so thankful for them. Sooner or later, you will feel the same i promise.

[Tatabita]

Tell them that you just need some space. It's really important to have a good relationship with your parents. When you have a good relationship with them and they trust you and you know your doing anything wrong, you will have more freedom. They should know that they are exaggerating to much. They are your parents they need to take care of you but not be your full on body guard or smth, sorry.

[Anonymous]

"i can't wait until i'm 18 and move out" it's not that easy, unfortunately... you'll be worried about getting a job and roommates to barely scrape by in life... it's terrible moving out young.

you'll just have to find better coping skills. this will help you in the long run, trust me.

[Opinion Owner]

reading back at this, i would feel so terrible if my child felt this way because of me. i would suggest calmly telling them how you are feeling (i know it sounds helpless), but just see how that goes. try to come to an understanding, from both sides.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Trust me offer to communicate more with your parents and things will get better trust me. Offer to do things for them like chores, and help them out when tasks need to be done.

[Anonymous]

ah, I've been there and done that. Today i live alone and i spend my money however i like and I'm not speaking to my parents. they don't know what i'm up to.

My advise? Find a job, make money and move out. In a dormitory if you must.

Until then keep a low profile.

Strength and honor to you. Don't let the other losers here steer you away from your liberation.

[PetiteBabe64]

Then Push back
Respect is Earned not Given.
If your parents want you to respect them then first they have to Respect you.

[BlueScorpio]

There's gotta be a reason they're on you, you said if you get in trouble then they're all over you. I suggest you stop getting in trouble and just listen to your parents. What kind of trouble did you get into?

[misogynistic_pig]

Time passes very quickly, recently I was also 14 years old.

[mobiusforniner]

Im 36 live on my own and have my own family. I got news for you, the craziness won't stop. I moved out at 17, make six figures, and my parents still think im a loser.

[Iron_Man]

talk to your parents but they’re your parents you have to listen to them

[dustybiker]

They love you or they wouldn’t give a damn. Just keep that in mind.

[peedy]

Grow up, you need to earn your freedom your parents are trying to help you listen to them

[Kingofkings1992]

Just wait till you’re a working adult in the real world. Then your problems will really start.