I just found out about my friends grad party and I wasn’t invited. Her mom planned it and it seems intentional. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

So I have no idea what happened but I wasn’t invited. We never had a falling out. She seemed to really like me as her friend, but it came time for grad party invites and they were talking about it in front of me and made up 3 versions of the stories of why I wasn’t invited (didn’t have my address, accidentally left my invite on their kitchen table, etc).
I felt really hurt by this.
We seriously didn’t have a falling out or anything. I am SO confused. I’ve only been a good friend to her.
Im not sure what the root of this is. I know they think I overdress for things and I’ve modeled, in fact a guy asked me in front of her once if I’ve been a model before. I am just speculating the reason. I’m not vain in that sense so I don’t get it.

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+1 y

This “friend” literally posted a pic with me months prior and put a quote on the caption about being friends. It’s weird.

[Somoneelse]

First, talking in front of you about it, while not inviting you, is such a d! ck move to do.

Sorry to hear you don't seem to be that great friends with her or her mother than what you thought. It's a difficult one. I would advise you to try to let her go and focus on other stuff. By all means, don't go uninvited to that party. The fact they try to cover it up with 3+ excuses/stories kinda gives me a signal they are trying to hide it and intentionally don't want you there. It might be the overdressing/modelling, might be other reasons. Don't spend too much energy speculating about it. Sometimes there are things in life where we never get an answer about.

[Asker]

Yeah I was really hurt by it and they kept back peddling.
I have no idea why.
And I went through a significant loss in my life which they knew about and that’s how I was treated.

[Paris13]

You are Right. I Believe They are Jealous of You and Reasons for Not Inviting You, Is They do Not Want YOU The Center of Their Daughter's Grad Day. Now You Know Who Your Friends Are. Move on From her. I can Relate With Two Narcissistic Siblings Like This With Me. It Is Hurtful. xxoo

[Asker]

I really don’t think that’s the reason. I just brought this issue up to a guy I was dating and that what he thought lol. I really don’t know the reason and why they’re rude.

[Paris13]

know they think I overdress for things and I’ve modeled, in fact a guy asked me in front of her once if I’ve been a model before. I am just speculating the reason. I’m not vain in that sense so I don’t get it.

[Paris13]

Read That Again.. That IS Why. xxoo

[Paris13]

Staring You Right in The face. xxoo