How do I make friends?

[Anonymous]

I’m shy, I’m terrible at starting conversations,(partly because my life is terribly boring and repetitive), and everyone but me seems to have a super busy life with almost no time to do anything together.

I’m a good open minded listener and open to talk about whatever other people want to talk with me about, but I’m too boring for people to notice me online or offline.

There are rare exceptions, but they are too busy and/or get bored of me too quickly to talk a decent amount. I’m really lonely.

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Note: I can’t even drive yet…

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Restating my problems isn’t helpful. Don’t just tell me to “get good”. Explain HOW.

[jennifer_bloom]

A pre med guy I talked to in school told me I had no business telling people they are boring when they are just expressing their natural birth right feelings and personalities and emotions. We were not designed to entertain each other like monkeys or digital dinosaurs. We were created to mature and be kind to others. Somebody who can't accept that is not worth your time. Also charm comes with experience and experience comes with positive social relationships.

[_Derpy]

All of the friends I've made throughout my adult life were through work and mutual friends. You don't really make friends, you kind of just find them. Try getting out and doing things you enjoy. From there you just naturally interact with you. If you're struggling with small talk, just be honest and tell them you're shy/not great with keepingtconversationd going. You're bound to find someone who understands and won't hold it against you.

[_Derpy]

*keeping conversations going

[_Derpy]

And is there a reason you can't drive? If there isn't, you should work on that. It would make it a lot easier.

[Asker]

It’s a long story. Trust me, I’m getting to it as soon as I can.

[_Derpy]

You got this bro

[BoopBoopBeep]

Work on being less boring. And learn how to drive. That's a basic life skill. Go join a group/club/volunteer. I meet tons of people through the charity races I do. Then you're always around people that you have at least one thing in common.

[Asker]

I know that. The question is how.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I literally just answered that. Go join a club or something. Get out in society.

[Asker]

I said I can’t drive.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You also can't walk, ride a bike, take a taxi or an uber? If you're bedridden at such a young age you likely have greater issues to deal with than making friends. You've pretty much sniped back at everyone that's offered you advice -- most of which was quite straightforward. You can find excuses and continue being a victim or you can find a way to do something and fix your problems. Literally billions of people in the world are doing it... are you telling me you're less capable than all of them?

[Asker]

I am less capable, but I don’t expect you to understand or even believe me if I explained why.
I regret asking this.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Plenty of "less capable" people out there after 20 years of war. We manage just fine when we decide to stop being a victim.

[TonyMetal___86]

I see you as a normal guy, we all feel lonely sometimes, especially that in our present day everyone are busy in their lives and they have big problems and issues which are even bigger from what they can hold, so it's not something personal...
Don't forget that everyone are different, don't expect for everyone to enjoy your company and talking with you, it happens with all of us, some people are compatible with you and some aren't...
You're just a normal guy like everyone else...
Maybe some guys or girls looks at your hair style and they think that you're a nerd or or something else 🤣🤣
Try to make a stylish new look, but if you are happy like that than no worries, i accept you the way you are but people these days, especially in this generation will find you weird, don't know why, ask them! I'm just telling you the truth...
Grow some self esteem and self confidence and walk strong and head up in this life...

[Asker]

I’m guessing you don’t have any friends.

[TonyMetal___86]

I have a lot of friends but there was a time when i had only 1 or 2 friends but to me it's the same, also it's not about the quantity of friends that you have, it's about the quality!

[Asker]

You think I don’t know it’s about quality? You’re just being a jerk.

[TonyMetal___86]

Now i know why you don't have any friends, with this sh*tty attitute that you have, no one is going to be your friend, i was trying to be nice with you and suddenly you started talking trash about me, F*** OFF!

[laly520]

socialize n go out more often

[Asker]

Even if I could drive, how would I get past my other problems?

[VanillaBomb]

Join clubs with your hobbies?

[Asker]

I can’t drive yet…