How common is it to change a lot over five years?

[HappyWoman34]

I’m changing so much. I started off as a bubbly, outgoing person and over the past few years, I’ve become more reserved and discerning. I’m no longer the life of the party sort. I’ve kept most friends, but some friends, I’ve outgrown. About 3 of them.

[WindAtMyBack]

It depends on the person's age. For younger people you can totally expect someone to change over five years. If they don't, something is wrong. Even at my age people will change in five years, but it might not be as noticeable.

"I’ve kept most friends, but some friends, I’ve outgrown."
This is normal. I don't know if it's always a good thing though. I think friends are valuable. There are times when you or them change enough that you just have nothing that ties you together any more. But I don't think friends should be dumped lightly. If they are dumped, I think it's a bad idea to burn bridges.

[HappyWoman34]

I haven’t burnt bridges, simply left it up to them to contact me, or not.

[WindAtMyBack]

Yea, I've never burnt bridges either, although I've come close with a couple of people.

Mostly I just lose touch, which I regret sometimes.

[bolverk]

If you had not changed over the last 5 years with what's been going on in the world, what with the 'pandemic', and especially in the US with BLM, all the 'Woke' BS, Jan 6th witch-hunt, etc, I would have been greatly surprised if you were the same person that you were at the beginning of 2019. As you grow older you change, its one of those unavoidable facts of life.

[rosemilk]

i agree, i feel like i have changed a lot too. but i was always withdrawn. but this time it's super withdrawn and i can't be out long enough or else i get overwhelmed. it seriously sucks. i think i downgraded a bit lol

[HappyWoman34]

I think I might’ve, too. Lol

[Lliam]

It's normal. At every stage of my life, when I looked back five years, I realized how much I had changed. I would think, boy was I dumb back then. But five years later, I would do the same thing. I'm nothing like I was 5, 10, 20, 30 years ago.

Life is a process of learning, gaining experience, and becoming more mature. Knowledge and experiences change you. It never stops. If you aren't constantly growing, you're dead.

My behavior and interests have changed over time. But I'm also the same person I was at any age - 6, 16, 26, 36, 45, 50, ... It's all a part of me.

I still have a couple life-long best friends. It's great fun chatting to them on the phone from time to time. Some have passed away. But with some friends, we got busy, moved on with our lives, had less and less in common, and basically lost contact.

I've made new friends, too. People with whom I have a lot in common.

Such is life.

[NathanDavis]

life can happen a lot...

sometimes even quicker

so yes, it is common... especially from people transitioning between "different stages of life" for example... age 15 to 20, I sure changed a lot, lmao

[HappyWoman34]

I’ve changed a lot from my early to mid thirties. I feel like I’m not the same person anymore.

[RavVid]

I'm glad about giving the life of the party role. I find this means a girl who is very loud, screams a lot and sings badly out of tune. You can her a block away after midnight.

We need more party girls to re-evaluate.

[HappyWoman34]

Yeah, I was always talking loudly and mothering everyone.

[Cutegirl06]

I've changed a lot in 5 years. When I was 12 I was mean to my little brother 😢 I'm happy I'm not like that anymore.

[Sparkie460]

I don't call it changing. I call it maturing.

[Liketotry]

Not really sure