My coworkers didn’t really acknowledge the death of my mother when I announced it. Only three of them gave condolences, but most of them ignored me, avoided and some said hi to me like they didn’t hear anything.
I cried to my sister on the phone on FaceTime. I know I’m almost 25 and acting like a baby. This is what my sister said, “Look I know this is different. It is for all of us but I’m going to tell you something that is the honest truth. I’m not going to sugarcoat it. Nobody really cares about you. They don’t. I’m serious. Everyone has their own problems to deal with and they’re lives are not going to stop because of your traumatic issues. Don’t expect it. Not everyone will give you the reaction or empathy YOU want them too. I’m just speaking from experience. Coworkers care about making money, doing their job and go home. Same with the directors. They don’t care about you! You have us. You’re family to be surrounded by. I know it sounds very blunt, but it’s the truth. They don’t give a rats ass about you and the workforce doesn’t care about your problems or your feelings.”
I was shocked about what my sister said. I cried harder and I just couldn’t talk or look at her for a while. It’s my mama! How can people not care that someone lost their mama? Even after two weeks off, nobody said welcome back or ignored me when I came back. No condolences, “Sorry for your loss”, chats NOTHING. The boss said welcome back and threw work on me. Even my coworkers I work with ignored me. They didn’t even say hi or give me a hug. The assistant director doesn’t greet me much anymore. She never acknowledged my loss NOTHING!
Sorry this is long but I HAD to rant.
I'm sorry you had to go through that and I'm sorry about the last of your mother I'm about to lose mine. and I have given up my life for the last past 4 years just about and taking care of her.. even my brother and sister stay away because they are afraid of what I don't know.. but you have to understand when we lose a loved one it hurts the pain is real and we just want how we think the world will stop and everybody will mourn or say something but the world keeps spinning people keep moving they look at you as they pass you by
and we just want to yell stop the world.
but you also have to think people don't know what's going on in your lives so it's hard for them to understand or care
it's just like somebody in your same office can have the same thing happen two weeks after your mom passed
nobody will know about it just like she didn't know about your mom passing and she will be feeling the same feelings that you feel she just wants everything to stop but nothing does it just keeps going and going
when my mom passes I don't want the world to stop I wanted to keep moving because I know that she's still alive I know that she is in a different place a different energy and everything will be okay
as long as you're okay and understand that we are energy and energy never dies that might be hard to believe but it is true so be happy that you had your time with your mom be sad that she's gone that smile because you will see her again once again I'm sorry for your loss
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She's not wrong, there's no bond between them and your mother. Nothing they say will change the fact that your mother died and at the end of the day, they're your coworkers, not friends. The 3 that did sympathize are the ones you could probably call friends.
Not a friend but sorry for your loss.
Okay, but not everyone knows your mama.
And some don't know how to comfort those dealing with loss.
It's your work. They're not going to pansy around you. Either take time off to grieve or get on with work. Work isn't like school, it's not about making friends. It's about doing YOUR work and getting paid.
You're being very immature by thinking otherwise.
I’m not saying what they did was right or excusing their actions, however, I’m wondering if at least some of them didn’t know how to handle it? Like, maybe they were unsure of how you’d feel about people you’re not close to offering their condolences? Especially if they’re young and haven’t lost many people.
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I Am So Sorry and Know How it Feels To Lose a Mom. My Own Sister is a Hard Nose But She Knows------First Hand, People Can Be Hard Hearts and Not Care. Society Has Gotten Worse!!! xxoo
I'm sorry 😔 people are just mostly selfish. Sorry about your mom.
Unfortunately, your sister is right on this one.
Yeah
I recall a saying which is this
Don't tell people about your problems because 80% don't care and 20% are glad you have them
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