Do you think I mean too harsh with my friend about her mom dying?

[Anonymous]

My friend has a mother who is dying of pancreatic cancer stage four and it’s terminal. She was confused about if a nursing home and hospice are the same or different. I bluntly told her, “Hospice is when a dying patient go to die, expire, that’s a wrap. Sounds horrible but it’s the truth. They’re going to pass away and frankly your mother should be going to.”
She looked shocked when I said that but she asked and her mom IS dying. Her mom is skinny, not talking, not eating, sleeping a lot, in a lot of pain and she doesn’t have much time.
She should not expect everyone to feel sorry for her. I feel really awful for her but reality is an ass and it doesn’t care about your feelings. I know it sounds blunt and rude, but that’s life and our parents won’t be around forever! No! Neither will we.

[Kokoroho]

there's a time and place foreverything. You, bad timing. its not about "everyone." She's talking to you. The one she pour her vulnerabilities to. This how you repay it? Not very wise. Sad really. No matter what others might not tolerate she was looking for clarity in tough situations. Not marine or navy treatment.

[Asker]

Look she will have to learn that not everyone will be comforting and caring for her. She is an adult. She needs to put her big girl pants on and buck the hell up! Mommy is dying so get used to it. She won’t be around forever.

[Luckycharms12]

Could nicely helped her see which best place for her mom clearly going true tough time without you being really hardg and mean

[Asker]

I wasn’t mean. She asked for the truth and I gave it to her. I’m sorry her mom is dying but hospice is where she needs to me to put it bluntly. Just sayings.

[KrakenAttackin]

Wow, you sound like my ex-wife... a capital "C".

[Asker]

What’s that supposed to mean? I gave her the truth!

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker. I can't explain empathy and compassion to you, you either have it or your don't. Again, are you sure you and I weren't married?

[Asker]

Dude I’ve never been married

[Staximus]

Have you had a parent die?

[Asker]

Well no but my parents are healthy and at least I have them still.

[Staximus]

Think of how you would feel if your mom was dying and somebody said the same thing to you. Are you a sociopath or just an insensitive asshole? The last time to be inconsiderate is when somebody is dying.

[Asker]

Im not being insensitive. I was telling her the truth. I wouldn’t like it either

[Staximus]

Yeah you are, you're an insensitive ass hat

[KrakenAttackin]

@staximus. Just imagine how she is with men!!

[Asker]

Whatever it’s the truth

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker, she KNOWS her mother is dying, and she is processing this. When a person close to you dies it is very disorienting, which is why people need SUPPORT, not harassment.

Damn girl, you have a lot to learn.

[Asker]

@KrakenAttackin Well why is she asking us strangers online? She needs to get on that plan and visit her mother before she’s dead. Horrible daughter