But it's only been a couple of weeks since he broke up with me, with still some very strong feelings and even crying during the break up. The reason? He felt like it was getting too serious, that he saw me as a life time partner but he was too young, lost and needed to focus on himself before having such a serious relationship, he couldn't give me what I wanted...he was acting really cold and distant before the breakup, not writing, calling me and getting angry for the stupidest things, his feelings for me somehow decreased. And I know I haven't been perfect either, maybe I asked for too much, but I still believed we would do some efforts and work on this relationship of one year. til the very end...Instead he wanted to break up, and I let him go telling him if he was determined to leave, I will not stand in his way.
The last thing I want to be is the girl who would beg for him to stay when he clearly don't feel like it (what's the point of being with someone who doesn't even know what he feels for you anymore and started treating you so badly?). So I told him it would be preferable if we didn't talk to each other for a while because I was too hurt, but still remain in contact later on when things will be less heated up, he answered that if we're meant to be will find a way to each other and that he wanted to keep in touch and he understood if I didn't want to talk to him for a while since he made me suffer too much.
I still care for him, we're already not talking to each other for now...why jump to this so fast? We're still friends on Facebook, I'm not very active on there so maybe he won't unfriend me (but that's still a harsh possibility). I'm pretty active on instagram as it's more private. Maybe he's sick and tired of seeing me? I have no idea what could possibly go through his head, as a guy could someone help me understand? I would be very thankful and I know I shouldn't over-think this kind of things, but you know...When someone counted this much for you you just lose it for the most smallest things.
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He's really responding from some place of shame or fear... is he a lot younger or just not ready? You obviously meant something to him the others don't... that's why he stays with them, they don't mean so much or get as close to him... so he is safe. you got close to his heart/soul and he freaked at how vulnerable he is or that he isn't ready. Basically, he's an immature boy and wasn't ready to handle that. It could also be you were too aggressive in pushing... an issue on your side... being needy?
Attraction is subconscious (like you don't decide it consciously, it is stuff from your past deciding it). And often, it is not good... like the mom who controlled him, he goes for a controlling woman... as example. Your dad left your mom, so you go for a guy that is weak... as example. He may have seen in you whatever that was, and it drummed up pain. WARNING: it seems there was connection, but it may be a bad one. If he shows up again, counseling required to navigate it... or else!
If you were intimate with him, then all the worse and more difficult this is on both sides.
As to what is wrong, it sounds like he isn't ready! thus, when he is, he may be back.
if that is your photo, you are excptionally attractive 9-10, it isn't a competition thing or someone else (in looks alone).
So you answered your question in the first mini-graph meaning that you're looking for consolation that you dated someone who was (objectively) a moron who took to the oldest nonsense EVER CREATED as a reason to escape the pressures that he was feeling. Normally I wouldn't touch this with a 20 foot pole ATTACHED to a 200 foot pole but I feel bad for you simply because he even fed you the textbook "If we're meant to be, we will be" bullsh*t.
You cry over a man you should beat. Think how cliche EVERYTHING sounds for a moment; you talk about not wanting to be the girl standing in his way, I get that, but take note of how this dude is "that guy" from that one sh*tty ass movie who somehow screws sh*t up and then magically gets his act together, comes back, and in a little while is just as sh*tty as he started. Remember that romantic tragedy comedy thing? No? Oh. Well. Whatever it's him; he's literally a trope, so ...
That's like crying over a cartoon character. Yes, I get it, emotional investment, boohoo, don't get wrong you have plenty of reason to cry but please put it in perspective. Dis hoe be like "I can't stand to look at the love of my life which I abandoned so I'mma have to just not stare at her because ... " <<<<< HOW THE F*** IS THAT LOGIC?
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I'm not a guy, but I will answer your question.
Breakups are never easy and the more you care for the other the harder it is. The last time I broke up with someone I stopped wanting to see their posts. Not because I didn't care, not because I didn't want to see them, but because seeing them made it hurt like hell and I didn't want to feel like that. The less you follow their updates, the easier it is for you to breath. To try to get your life back together. To not feel like shit all the time. It's like no contact, not talking to one another, because it makes it all that more difficult and painful.
It's possible he will want to follow you again after he gets through the worst, but let him have some peace for the moment. Apparently he needs it. And don't take it on yourself, it doesn't have to mean he doesn't care or want to be in contact ever again. It might just be the opposite. It was for me.
Girl, as crazy as it sounds, ironically I'm in your SAME position right now! It hurts so bad, and all I could do is stay serious. Except in my case, he started following a girl he liked before me, but still unfollowed me. It made me mad but I can't say anything because after he dumped me, I started following my ex. I hate all this situation