I think I have attachment issues?

Question

So I have this guy friend he's really more than a friend he's my bestie and he obviously means a lot to me but it's like everytime he doesn't reply in like I don't know more than five hours I start to panic like crazy panic mode, and then I get sensitive too when he only says hi to me and nothing else on some days... but not most days. I guess I just really really care what he thinks, but the harsh reality is probably that he doesn't think much of me at all because when I dated him there was one day where he was pretty much subtly degrading me subtly not directly if you know what I mean, which can be worse than doing it directly if you ask me so yea. But ever since that day he's been the opposite just polite as hell and I guess I held onto that feeling of being treated well because well the other harsh reality is most guys don't treat me well man it's rough being a girl, so I guess my real question is do I have attachment issues or is it just in my head, I guess I also just wanted to share my feelings about all this. I honestly forgot what I'm really wondering Lmao anyways peace out let me know if anybody can relate.

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

I definitely think you might have some attachment issues with this guy. Always panicking if he doesn't text back quick enough or only says hi - that shows you're really relying on his approval and responses to feel okay.

And it makes sense why you'd latch on so hard after he was mean that one time - you wanna hold onto the feeling of being treated well like you said. We all crave that.

But you gotta learn to love yourself more so some dude's opinion of you isn't everything. Easier said than done, I know. Maybe try distancing yourself from him little by little so you're not so available all the time when he does hit you up.

Find other people you can spend time with too for a confidence boost. Anxiously waiting by the phone for him won't lead anywhere good sis. You deserve someone who adores you right back without games like that subtle disrespect shit.

Don't be so hard on yourself either - we all get attached sometimes. But I'd say work on making some other close friends, pursue your interests, hit the gym - build your own support system so you're not relying on just one dude, you feel me? You got this girl!

boggboss · Answer

U clearly have attachment issues that was clear before the backstop info

I think I have attachment issues?

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