I don't think love is for me. does someone who has attachment issue be in healthy relationship?

[Anonymous]

I don't have much experience in love but whenever I'm in love i get too much attached to her. I'm constantly thinking about her she never leaves my mind. I don't enjoy anything when she is not involved, no matter how busy or important things I have on backlog she becomes the priority. And top of that I have bad habit of overthinking, so I keep thinking am I taking too much of her space or bothering her, by messaging, calling her. Am I being too clingy. I don't feel like talking to other girls, it's like my world starts to revolve around her. And yes, am not a teenager am 27 don't know why I behave like this.

[Anonymous]

This is my personality too, I am Demi sexual, so I am physically only attracted to people I have an emotional bond with. I think this makes everything more intense for me becus liking someone in this way doesn’t come easy. I am currently going through this right now and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t feel as I do, I know he liked me and we began sleeping together but I’m completely obsessed and almost acting as if we are in a relationship. I can’t go a day without speaking to him, and I think I’m scaring him off.

[Asker]

Stay strong, one thing that helps me is to keep myself busy it does not work always and it's difficult to distract your mind but it does help.

[bededazzle]

also i have found that with a partner who you truly feel secure with, the problems are lessened. not that you shouldn’t work on yourself, but it may be a matter of the right person. smothering someone is bad, but the same traits can also make you a devoted partner. i personally have been very unsuccessful for similar issues, but i think it is possible

[Asker]

@bededazzle I totally agree it does depend on the person you're in relation with. If you are with wrong person they might take advantage, and that is emotionally exhausting.

[bededazzle]

i have similar issues. in my experience, it’s hard to fix the inner feelings, but not so tough to take responsibility of taking care of yourself. you have to force yourself to go slow. personally, i would recommend waiting a while before sex.

[boggboss]

Sounds like u have a obsessive personality not really sure ehat u can do maybe therapy to help u come up with strategies to combat it