How to get over your attachment issues?

[MLGbreezy]

I’ve come a long way when it comes to dealing with woman but something that’s been making an appearance in my life that I feel like is becoming a serious issue. Is my attachment to past woman and relationships to the point of concern in my eyes frankly I think it’s unhealthy. I’ve alway been a little clingy that’s who I am but I think the issue got really bad in recent times I’ve dealing with girls that I loved and said they’d never leave who at some point walked away. I’ve found that I have a hard and I mean really hard time letting go like there are girls that I haven’t talked to seriously in a year or more and I’ll hit them up randomly trying to reconnect sometimes. Or this recent girl that cut ties with me we never even talked seriously but she was a friend and a potential lover and things got sour and we cut ties. But even tho she was toxic and I’ve been told I’m better off without her I just couldn’t let her go still hitting her up even tho this was really recent like a week ago recent like we were never that serious that I should be this attached I damn near had a mental breakdown the other day about this girl. Not only that I think my fear of losing another girl has been making avoid actual relationships I’ve had a few girls try to be with me the last few years that I turned down and while it want alway cause I didn’t wanna be with them part of it is I don’t wanna lose them. Anyone got any advice for this cause I don’t want it to get worse I don't know why it’s gotten this bad and it’s not ever girl but some I were close with some others not so much I just don’t wanna keep driving myself nuts for nothing.

[Selene1600000]

What you are describing sounds less like love and more like fear of abandonment mixed with emotional attachment, which is why you struggle to let go even when the relationship was unhealthy or never fully real. A big sign is that you sometimes avoid relationships completely because losing someone feels more painful than never fully having them, and that creates a cycle where every connection starts carrying huge emotional weight. The healthiest thing you can do is stop reopening old connections for temporary comfort, build a life that feels emotionally stable outside of dating, and seriously consider therapy if these reactions keep becoming overwhelming because this pattern usually does not fix itself just through willpower.

[Anonymous]

You’re collecting women.. women you don’t even want to be with… Your insecurities are holding you back from moving forth. You say you had multiple girls want to be with you.. so it sounds like you’re pretty successful at woo’ing women and putting your charm on, but this one girl who cut ties with you was like a slap in the face.

Even if she isn’t better the others or you don’t like her as much as the rest of your potential candidates willing to fill in the girlfriend role, it bothers you bc you didn’t win with her. It’s an ego thing. Flirty but detached attachment style if you ask me