How to get over abandonment attachment issues?

[Jumpin4blue]

I’ve experienced a lot of loss in a short amount of time. I lost my 11 year relationship out of the blue when he was shot and killed. I also lost two pets of 15 years and 12 years around the same time. I’ve noticed I have abandonment issues of feeling like I’m going to lose someone. I have a hard time getting close to somebody and when I finally do I tend to be a little clingy. Which is hard when my boyfriend is kind of avoidant and withdrawals from people he cares about when he’s overwhelmed.

[Steamnir]

I think its a phase we all go through during our life, life is about surviving and continuity, you can't make your life stops on one person or one thing, cause as you have seen losing anyone happens within minutes, so i suggest you live your life, get to know everyone, you can't make your life stops on one person even if he is alive and well and loyal to you, you need friends, family, a job you care about, hobby and passion, you need peace within yourself to accept any bad thing could ever happens without thinking its your fault and without thinking it will stop your life, accept that life want to show you other things, than the ones you have accepted to settle with forever.

[Anonymous]

Do you have borderline personality disorder?

[msc545]

You need to see a Psychologist about this. Attachment problems are very painful and disturbing, and you will need some professional help for this. DM me if you want to talk a little about this.

[lightbulb27]

you didn't say anythnig about your parents. were and have they been there for you?

[AngryCarl]

The only way to get over it is to have a successful stable relationship.

[Anonymous]

Seek therapy.