What to do when you miss a friend that’s not good for you?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I miss her and she keeps messaging me that she misses me, even though I know she’s not a good person nor a good friend, I feel like we had a great time together and I miss her sometimes.

I come across our videos laughing and having the time of our lives and she keeps telling me she spent the best year of her life with me.

I just really miss her so much sometimes. She’s a real villain though.

What makes it worse is that she always comes to me and tells me how she misses me.

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+1 y

She just messaged me she was as addicted to me as she was addicted to cigarettes (she was a smoker, I am not a smoker). But she said getting rid of cigarettes is easier, tho she still can’t forget so much fun we had together and sometimes she just sits by the window and thinks of me. 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

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+1 y

She tells me the only thing she regrets is - Not spending more time with me. Like the time spent with me was never enough. She wanted more of it and she often tells her husband that she has spent the most memorable days with me and she loves me. So sweet.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Reload and try again.

No just kidding. JUST KIDDING MODS!

She's out of your life for a reason. Remember the good times but don't see her through rose colored glasses.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

hahahaha

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’ll try. Do you remember her?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Do I remember your friend? I don't think i knew her did i?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

From my older posts, I used to ask a lot of questions about her

I thought that’s why you said Reload and try again

[BoopBoopBeep]

@LaFemmeFatale_1
I don't recall. I'm not sure we'd really talked much then.

I was making a play on words... if you miss your target you reload another round and try to hit it again. I'm just not that funny ;)

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You are funny, and your words kind of apply haha

because she actually tends to be quite manipulative and narcissistic 😄

But I’d not shoot her for that :d

Maybe just darts

[BoopBoopBeep]

@LaFemmeFatale_1
Darts'll do the job too ;)

[Alwayreckles93]

Try findingg a hobby I myself Iam ggoubg threw this situation rigght now. I left a pentecostal church turns out thisbone frined told me she misses me at church that I am one of her best friends but yet sheis justified the pastors narcissis behavior. I had a huge argument with the pastor because he was telling people about my husband history past life. We left for good. Yeah I had good times great memories with this friend but I feel sad because pastor takes advantage of her kindness.

[IslaTheWitch]

Keep the great memories, enjoy them. But if you know that someone is not good for you, the hardest part is behind you.

Close this part of your life. Make a space for new, better people and greater experiences.

Think of decreasing the intensity of your contacts. It could help to close it in the past.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She just decided to give her child a name picked by me though 🥺🥺🥺

[IslaTheWitch]

She will probably do a lot things to keep you available for her. But it's your life. If something is not good for you... cut it off. Then heal and recover and move on.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep, that’s how I feel when I am not emotional, but sometimes I just miss her.

I have been avoiding her for the past 7-8 months. But she’s persistent about not giving up on our friendship.

Have you ever had a friend like that?

[IslaTheWitch]

No... I had situations when we needed to split our ways, but it was more or less clear.

Maybe you have to be more firm on your side. Tell her you wouldn't have as much time as you had for talking to her. Don't answer her real time. Delay answers or answer on specific time of a day.

If it was not good person for me I would rather explain her my perspective and end the relationship.

[NathanDavis]

value yourself more... and focus on other things

[NathanDavis]

because they won't value you...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But the two us, we brought out our wildest sides together, we had so much fun, it was crazy.

She was traveling long distance every weekend to party with me.

I don’t miss partying I miss her.

We, go out in the streets together always equaled a memorable adventure.

We were both crazy together

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Things we did together… Totally crazy.

[NathanDavis]

yes, I do understand that part, but...

you say that she is NOT good for you

so, why would you want to bring bad onto you...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She has been living inhibited life and so have been I… Together though… We were wild.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She’s generally not a good person, and I was often concerned how immoral she could be.

But… We had so much fun. Right now, what stops us from being friends is that I am in no contact with her for a few months already.

She keeps messaging me and God, I miss that everything we did we turned into an adventure.

She brought out the side of me that I usually keep hidden, and I brought out her better side I think, at least, she told me I taught her a lot.

She was someone who helped me move on from my relationship, because I laughed to tears when we were together.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She was my partner in crime.

[NathanDavis]

is this what you want? to go back to wild and crazy, and risky behaviour again?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope

[NathanDavis]

so, you just want her back in your life?

is she still the same as she was before?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She just names a child after me… I chose her child’s name just now!

[NathanDavis]

Baby Femme... so cute

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I feel like you’ve got to have one crazy friend too. 🤣🤣

All of my other friends are decent human beings, I love how amazing they are.

This one is a real villain though. But villains need friends too, right?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And yep, it was sweet, she cares about my words so much, that she even names her child a name I chose.

[NathanDavis]

villains do throw you under the bus... so why risk that, or give her a chance?

[love_conquers_lust]

Was she in that video that you posted a while back? I’m sorry you miss her. I’m sure she could have made your leg ordeal easier. Friends are important.

[DagonbroughtMehere]

leave them in the past, keep what Memories you will but remember they are meant to stay in the past. Should they return see that Your door is closed to them.

[KittygosMeoWW]

As cheesy as it sounds, make a list with positive and negative things. Re read the negative until your emotions pass.

[spartan55]

Is this that psycho roommate you had?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes…

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She has been messaging me that she misses me and I miss her too… But I haven’t been replying to her because I know it’s not a good idea. Doesn’t help with missing though.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Doesn’t matter what insane idea I had, she was always in.

[spartan55]

Yeah, you had some interesting moments with her.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You think so?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She just asked me to choose her child’s name!!!

[spartan55]

Lol... omg... who does that?

[laly520]

keep focused on not contacting em n move on

[FenixG45]

Cry?