My child’s father and I are not together. I’ve never met his family and they want to meet their grandchild. At first my child’s father said his parents would come to me ( we live in two different cities). Now he’s saying we should go to his parents so they could meet their granddaughter. My child’s 8 months now and they’ve been knowing about my child since she’s was 4 months old. I’ve never spoken to them either. My child’s father has also said some things that have made me feel uncomfortable about meeting them. And he’s also made me feel like shit. So I don’t care for his family at all. I would like for them to meet my daughter.
What would you do in this situation. Would you travel to go and meet the parents?
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Girl that's kind of a tough situation. On one hand, it's good for the baby to know her dad's family too. But I can understand not feeling comfortable going alone since things seem iffy with the dad.
If it was me, I'd probably say the family can come visit you again instead. That way you're in your own space and in control of the visit. Or maybe do a video call first so you can meet them and get a feel without traveling.
Def don't go if your guts telling you something feels off. Your baby's safety and comfort is the top priority here. The dad and his fam shouldn't pressure you into something that makes you anxious.
Maybe see if a friend can come with for support too if you do decide to visit someday. But no need to rush it - the baby's still little. Stick to what feels right for you mama! Hope you guys can work it out in a way that puts your mind at ease.
Well. There's two ways you can handle this situation
The problematic way or the peaceful way
If you have no desire to meet them. Fuck it make their ass come to you
If you just would rather get it over with then I say go this one time but not after that. For a while anyway
It also depends on how much you and him get along
We’ve had our issues. He’s been a really shitty person to me but I’m trying to coparent peacefully for the sake of my daughter.
Hmmm well how important is having his side of the family in your daughter's life
Honestly, If you are really trying to co parent peacefully, just go this one time as I said
You dont have to do it for you just do it for your daughter I guess. It's. Not. Like they wanna cause harm to her. She is their grand kid after all
I'm in the same situation and personally if u both don't get along well and it's gonna be constant arguments or he has put u in a dangerous situation or his family could be a danger to your child or you then no don't put yourself or child in harms way or in a situation where u do not have a way out or someone to help u if they want to see there grandchild they will come to u some place that will make your child feel comfortable or a public setting near u and most likely his reason for wanting them to meet there grandchild could also be because there not doing well or they may be looking at him in a bad way because the father of my child was yelling at me over that but still they should want both u and your child to be comfortable and in a place nearby familiar for the both of u wishing nothing but the best hope everything works out and they compromise with you.