How do I tell my parents that my wife and I don't want kids?

[Anonymous]

My parents have talked about wanting grandkids, I'm nervous they'll be disappointed with me.

[JoahZ10nT]

Just be honest. Like you said it here “ my wife and I don’t want to have kids”. I know you guys want grandkids but for now I don’t want kids. Sorry if I disappoint you. But that’s the decision my wife and I made.

[Hayley-Jade]

Having an open and honest conversation with your parents about not wanting kids is important. Choose a time when you can talk calmly and privately, and express your feelings respectfully. Let them know your reasons and reassure them that it's a decision you've thought about carefully. They might have their own feelings about it, but ultimately, it's your life and your choice.

[SolitarySolace]

Why do you care? They’re going to have to suck it up and deal with it because they can’t force you have give them grandchildren.

[Asker]

I don't wanna disappoint them but I guess I'll have to, just a tough situation.

[SolitarySolace]

It’s not a tough situation. What’s tuff is they’re gonna have to suck it up

[Staximus]

Are you an only child?

[Asker]

Yes.

[Staximus]

Well that makes things a little more complicated

[Asker]

What do you suggest?

[Staximus]

A few of my friends didn't want kids, and then when they were 40 all of a sudden they just had to have them before it was too late. You and her may change your mind in a few years. I suggest just avoiding the question for a few more years.

[Staximus]

It's something you need time to think over.

[Asker]

What if we don't change our minds?

[Staximus]

Then that's your choice. I suggest you don't tell your parents "we don't want kids" for a few more years anyways, unless they keep bothering you about it

[Staximus]

With some parents that might be a major disappointment

[Asker]

Her parents know and accept it, just mine I'm worried about. Her's already know because she always said she wasn't gonna have them since her teenage years.

[Staximus]

My friend and his wife went on for years about how they didn't want kids. Well now his wife is going to be 40 in 2 years and she's got baby fever.

[Asker]

I can't see her changing her mind, her and kids don't get along.

[Staximus]

That's a huge red flag dude. I know a few women who didn't or don't want kids but they still like them and get along with them.

[Asker]

Eh, I'm fine with it.

[jahaims]

You're an adult who cares if they are disappointed

[Anonymous]

Adopt

[Asker]

We don't want them at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Your parents will curse you

[Asker]

I just don't want that kind of responsibility, I don't think I'd be happy.