Right time to say I DON’T WANT KIDS?

[Anonymous]

Ten world has 8 billion people. I don’t want kids but like a guy. I don’t know if he want kids. When should I let him know or the topic be discussed? I don’t want to create false hopes to the guy since I am driven in my career and love dogs.

[Berethor]

Dating apps show it right from the start, 8 billion people don't matter, you ruin your family that's what matter, it normal to have kids, you the one who need to tell that you different.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s fair to know what you want in the next 5 years and to tell him you don’t want kids through 2030. Can let him know before date #1. Anything past 2030 is so far into the future you just can’t predict.


Make sense?

[Phoenix98]

As early as possible so that if he does want kids he doesn't waste his time being with someone who doesn't want the same thing as him.

[slatyb]

First date. "What are your plans / goals? If you want to have children I'm not the woman for you."

[laly520]

u gotta tell him from start

[Asker]

I hate this dating shit. Wouldn't it been super easy saying it all from the beginning? point 1,2,3,4,5 with no surprises?

[laly520]

yes thats how u gotta do it
be honest from start
I always do that

[MrDaveAPSI]

I don't want kids either

[Asker]

How and when you think is the right timing to discuss it? Because I don’t want to date the guy even if I love him if he wants kids, I am hones so I don’t give false hopes

[Asker]

*honest

[MrDaveAPSI]

You should always be honest right off the bat, DONT WASTE HIS TIME

[Asker]

So like 1st date I should say something about his long term life goals and say bluntly “listen DUDEI LIKE YOU BUT NO KIDS?” I am super afraid of this part. I hate this love feelings

[MrDaveAPSI]

Be prepared to lose him. If he wants kids, and you don't, chances are, he's going to dump you

[Asker]

Thank you for your honest hindsight, better to loose someone at the begging. Also I get panic attacks if I don’t know what he wants form life

[MrDaveAPSI]

Right. Better to just know now