Actually there is no reason... She is my colleague and she invited some of our colleagues except me. I don't get this, what do you think is the reason when your best friend didn't invite you to her/his wedding?
Sadly I think the obvious one. You are not as close to her as you thought amongst her work colleagues.
It seems unprofessional to me as it has to to have an impact on your working relationship and the whole point of professionalism is to facilitate the ability of people to work harmoniously together. That got a pretty big kick in the teeth.
The big question is how you should deal with her and the colleagues she did invite? The goal needs to be that there is no disruption of those working relationships and to preserve your dignity. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
if it is sudden news she is getting married congratulate her etc. If the invitations were just recently issued continue as normally as possible.
Sometimes we like people more than they like us and other people like us more than we like them. I know it hurts but there is nothing you can do but be proffessional.
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There could be a lot of reasons, but the fact your other colleagues were invited suggests that she doesn't think about you as as much of a friend as you think of her. Or maybe her husband didn't want you there (much much much less likely).
In my experience, when I haven't gotten invited to places, it's because someone decided that I wasn't in the cool kids club.
I think no matter what any of us say, it is still something hurtful and is mind boggling.
You will definitely never feel the same about her. I wouldn't. I would keep my distance from her just like she did to you. Screw her!
I was the only one in our crowd of friends in high school when two Seniors got married. My best friend called me from the wedding and said I didn't get invited because there wasn't enough food. Yeah, I weighed about 95 pounds and hardly ate very much. It really hurt my feelings and to this day I remember how hurt it made me feel.
Ask her. If she ignores you or skirts around the question, you have your answer. Then she doesn't consider you as close as you consider her.
If she gives you a reasonable explanation... well, there you go.
I would evaluate after you hear back from her the reason why. Ask her in a non-confrontational way. Maybe say something like "Hey, I saw your wedding pics, it looked beautiful! Hope you had a brilliant time :)"
That will make sure you get the point across that you know she got married, without making her get defensive. See what she says in response.
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is there a person limit?
It’s her wedding, her choice. Maybe she has a limited number of guests and she chooses who she thinks is closest to her to celebrate one of the most important days of her life. Don’t overthink it.
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Apparently, you are not one of HER best friends.
But this is the 21st century... just wait until she marries next time.Just ask her. That’s probably the easiest way to get an answer. Either she’ll tell you why, or beat around the bush about it.
Do you have a history with her new husband or something? I can't think of any other reason a girl wouldn't want her best friend at her wedding!
She doesn't consider you as close as you think or could be that she doesn’t like you personally.
Not to state the obvious, but obviously, she doesn't think of you as HER best friend. What made you think she was YOUR best friend if you're basically colleagues? IF you really believe you are besties, you should ask her what's up?
Don't take it personally. It's her wedding she can do whatever she wants about it. Be happy for her and do not resent her.
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Sounds like she's your best friend but you're not her best friend...
Did she ask why you did not attend? Maybe she thought you were going to be there because you are best friends….
Maybe an oversight, perhaps you girls are losing your friendship.
She isn't your best friend. You just want to be their best friend.
She does not consider you as good of a friend as you consider her.
You're not really that close or best friends if she didn't invite you.
Maybe you are not as close as you thought.
Maybe she’s mad at you
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she simply dont want u to be there
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